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When did your DC reliably sleep through?

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AllTheTeaInTown · 14/12/2023 21:21

Other than the occasional (once or twice a month) wake up. By sleep through I mean, reliably doing at least 9-10 hours!

If there were any tough phases of poor sleep at what ages did they occur and how many days/weeks did it go on for?

Just trying to gauge what is most usual though appreciate there will be a wide range as everyone’s different!

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Parker231 · 15/12/2023 08:58

Mummyme87 · 15/12/2023 08:01

DS1 probably 18months
DS2 2.5yrs
praying DS3 will get the sleep memo

How do you function at work - I’m dreadful without proper sleep - one of the reasons we used formula so we could take it in turns and also why we sleep trained.

Mummyme87 · 15/12/2023 09:05

@Parker231 my DS1 was FF and I got more sleep with my DS2 who wasn’t. I just survived, and made sure I had gaps between babies to catch up on sleep again.

Torganer · 15/12/2023 09:11

10 weeks.

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AlltheFs · 15/12/2023 09:11

user1497787065 · 15/12/2023 06:17

Both of mine were about six to eight weeks but this was many years ago. They were both in their own rooms at this time and if they had a little cry before they went to sleep it wasn’t frowned upon or seen as abuse or neglect as it appears to be nowadays.

That’s because we know better. You are lucky yours didn’t die.

My neighbour killed herself when she lost her baby to SIDS, but you clearly know better than the entire medical profession.

elliejjtiny · 15/12/2023 09:16

Dc1- aged about 18 months
Dc2 -aged 2.5 years
dc3- now aged 13 and still doesn't
Dc4 - only woke once in the night from birth, then slept through from 2 months old. Paediatrician told me to wake him up and feed him at 2 am until he was 6 months old.
dc5 - 9 years old and we are still waiting.

kernowpicklepie · 15/12/2023 09:23

DC1 - 12 months. She wakes occasionally when ill but sleeps 10 hours with no problems. She's now almost 2.5

DC2 - not yet. He's almost 12 months and his sleep isn't bad so I'm hopeful that he'll also sleep straight through soon

janfebmarchapril · 15/12/2023 09:55

7 months

crostini · 15/12/2023 09:59

Number 1 - 18 months
Number 2 - from 3 weeks old. With a regression at 8 months, and then solidly again from a year.

BertieBotts · 15/12/2023 10:02

About two and a half. DS3 seems to be doing it a bit earlier but he's not totally reliable yet so I would put him on track for 2.5 as well.

I think the trickiest parts were around 3-4 months which is when their sleep cycles change which is why people sometimes call it "the four month sleep regression" and then around 15 months because it feels like every other baby in the world is sleeping and yours never ever will.

miniegg3 · 15/12/2023 10:03

Wow jealous of the ones that were only weeks old! I was probably still up every 2 hours at that point.

Reliably through the night id say 2.5, but from 1.5 was fine, just the odd wake up a week and easy to settle again

BertieBotts · 15/12/2023 10:03

You are lucky yours didn’t die.

This is an absolutely scaremongering and ridiculous way to talk about a slight increase in risk. I say this as someone who was totally soft on sleep all the way and went for route of least resistance and never sleep trained.

The whole dividing parenting issues into "camps" is awful IMO and what does it help to demonise someone doing exactly what was advised at the time? In 30 years your children may well consider that you followed the wrong advice about sleep, even though what you do now is probably correct as to the current advice.

miniegg3 · 15/12/2023 10:05

ACynicalDad · 15/12/2023 06:59

About 12 weeks and 26-20 weeks for number 2. It’s the dog that wakes us up.

Same, mine needs a wee most night around 4am 🤣

susiedaisy1912 · 15/12/2023 10:07

When they started school

ellecf21 · 15/12/2023 10:09

12 weeks. She's had two or three nights where she's woken at 9 (goes to bed between 6-7) crying when she's had a cold but apart from that she sleeps solidly.

TheBirdintheCave · 15/12/2023 10:11

12 weeks for our son. Hoping and praying number two is the same 😂

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 15/12/2023 10:21

Age 4 (years)

SnowsFalling · 15/12/2023 10:32

DS2 - about 2yr.
DS1 - 10 hours??? Probably never. He's a teenager now and won't sleep for a 10 hour stretch. And I still think he wakes in the middle of the night - but from about 3 years didn't come and "wake" us. From about 5years, didn't make enough noise to disturb us. He can regularly be found making pancakes for breakfast at 6am at the weekends.

loganhoonabootthetoon · 15/12/2023 11:10

My son slept through from about 12 weeks. He's now 4 and we never have any issues with him sleeping through unless he's ill. He slept in his Moses basket in our room until 7 weeks and then went in to his cot bed in his own room.

riotlady · 15/12/2023 11:25

DD- totally consistently, reliably, in her own bed? 5 years old. She would do patches here and there from about 2.

DS- 12 weeks

converseandjeans · 16/12/2023 00:17

@AlltheFs

I'm not convinced that having baby in same room would make a huge difference. Even in the same room you would be asleep presumably and not watching over them 24/7. I also think co-sleeping is riskier than them being in their own cot. If would be interesting to see some figures comparing SIDS with deaths related to co-sleeping.

We all just do our best. I felt that prioritising a routine made me a better parent as I was getting enough sleep. But we're all different.

Kwasi · 16/12/2023 00:20

10 weeks but the trade off was 5 am starts for years.

mollyfolk · 16/12/2023 00:24

DC 1 - 4 weeks . Breastfeed and everything, the child just loves sleeping.
DC 2 - never - still at it 😓
DC 3 - around 9 months. Although was probably 2 before they never ever woke up.

MandyCandy · 16/12/2023 00:25

Cosleeping helps me. DS slept through at 15 months when sleeping with me.

Tough times:
4 months - constant waking
9 months - waking and staying awake excited
14 months - having a huge fit at night, taking an hour to resettle.
17 months - just starting slapping and rolling too suddenly in his sleep

Itsbeginingtolookalotlikexmas · 16/12/2023 00:28

DC1 6 weeks
DC2 4 months

GingerLiberalFeminist · 16/12/2023 04:40

Reliably - when I go away for a night and DH has her 😂
Seriously. But also she is only 12 months so still waiting to skip this 4am slot!