My 8 year old daughter has ADHD.
She is having behavioural struggles in school and I’m at a complete loss how to deal with it.
In year 1 she had an awful year where she was regularly excluded, and put on a partial timetable. I almost lost my job due to this, as well as my own mental health!
Year 2 we had a big improvement and she had a mostly good year.
Year 3 is heading on a downward spiral again. She’s disruptive in every class, doesn’t listen, only completes her work about 50% of the time, runs out of the classroom. She hasn’t been excluded as yet but I’m worried it will get that way.
School are being helpful, giving her opportunity to turn her behaviour around, lots of movement breaks, more leeway than other kids. Tried ear defenders but she just messed with them.
She doesn’t qualify for funding for a 1 to 1 or anything like that.
When she’s been bad at school she has a stern talking to about what better choices she could have made, then she loses her iPad, her tv at bedtime, is sent to her room for the evening and loses getting to go to her activities after school also. It’s making home life miserable because it’s now every day, but I can’t just let her get away with the behaviour because I’m worried it will spiral to what it was before.
When she’s good she earns pocket money, crafting time, screen time, and after school activities and we make a big fuss over her which she loves, although it’s rare now.
I feel like I’m being too harsh on her but I don’t know what else to do. Although it’s not working anyway.
Please help/advise!