10 year old saw inappropriate photo of dad

[Whatdoido1987]

Yesterday DH had sent a photo of his penis, it was flaccid ...I know this is still bad but I feel it's worth mentioning.

This morning I was making breakfast and DS went onto my phone, without asking and saw the photo...nonidea why he'd gone on to my WhatsApp messages!!

I feel terrible, panicked and don't know what to do...he's 10 and he came in to me clearly quite confused and distressed...all I could say was it was private and he shouldn't have seen it but also shouldn't go through a grown ups messages .

What do I do, I've really messed up and don't know how to fix it! Is he going to be traumatised? He's seen DH naked but of course this is different because it's a photo sent to me!! I obviously should have deleted it or had a pin on WhatsApp but just arghh 😭😭😭

Any advice on what to do ? I can't stop thinking about it and feel really stressed!!!

Name changed as I don't want this linked with other posts 😫

Your 10 year old probably already knows about the concept of dickpics and sexting. Kids talk. I also think that by year 6 my kids had already been warned about sending or receiving inappropriate messages in PSHE lessons.

Your son is probably moody, quiet and a little traumatised by the realisation that his mum has a sex life. Even at my age I’d find the idea of my mum sexting gross 🤢. We don’t like to think about our parents in that way.

He’ll get over it. Until then, set up FaceID on WhatsApp although I doubt he’ll ever want to look at your messages again 😂

Then he shouldn't be in YOUR phone. Lesson learned.

he might be shocked, but 'traumatised' ?? Honestly, Dave that for children seeing other children killed in a yoga class, Gaza. One of their parents beaten . Not a bloody phots of his Dad's flaccid willy.

teach him the concept of privacy.

He will get over it, my kids get grossed out all the time by me n OH kissing/ him smacking my bum etc, i think its healthy for kids to know their parents find each other attractive/are in love- my 13yo came to me the other morning and said she heard me n OH having sex the night before, no big deal, i just laughed, apologised, told her she probably should have been asleep by then anyway -was 11/12 oclock and left it at that, kids know that parents do these sort of things, if my son 12 saw a dikpic on my phone firstly i would make it clear that its his dads- maybe he is freaking out that some random dude is sending you pics, that sometimes if you’re in a relationship, adults do send each other naughty pics (stress in a relationship only) and that he should always ask permission before he goes on your phone, there is no point trying to cover it up, there is nothing wrong with it, mum n dad find each other attractive -obviously- they wouldn’t be here else lol its when mum n dad no longer find each other attractive is when they need to worry lol xx

Well actions have consequences. This tells him he shouldn't look at other people's phones without permission. I doubt it will traumatise him for life - all kids go through embarrassment re their parents having sex etc. Just tell him parents are allowed to see photos of each other's bodies, but it's not ok to send pictures of your body to other people who haven't consented.

And don't make a big deal out of it - if you do, you'll make it seem worse than it is.