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10 year old saw inappropriate photo of dad

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Whatdoido1987 · 08/12/2023 09:25

Yesterday DH had sent a photo of his penis, it was flaccid ...I know this is still bad but I feel it's worth mentioning.

This morning I was making breakfast and DS went onto my phone, without asking and saw the photo...nonidea why he'd gone on to my WhatsApp messages!!

I feel terrible, panicked and don't know what to do...he's 10 and he came in to me clearly quite confused and distressed...all I could say was it was private and he shouldn't have seen it but also shouldn't go through a grown ups messages .

What do I do, I've really messed up and don't know how to fix it! Is he going to be traumatised? He's seen DH naked but of course this is different because it's a photo sent to me!! I obviously should have deleted it or had a pin on WhatsApp but just arghh 😭😭😭

Any advice on what to do ? I can't stop thinking about it and feel really stressed!!!

Name changed as I don't want this linked with other posts 😫

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Justfinking · 08/12/2023 10:06

Needmorelego · 08/12/2023 09:28

I'm quite surprised if a 10 year old lad hasn't seen his Dad's willy before.
Odd.

This

SnowSwan · 08/12/2023 10:07

I remember sitting going through a huge box of mixed photos with my mum when I was a child. I had the misfortune of picking up one that was my naked dad with a pair of red pants on his head. My mum freaked out and threw it on the fire. It still makes me laugh to this day. Your son will be fine.

DinoDays · 08/12/2023 10:10

AndrewGarfieldsLaptop · 08/12/2023 09:30

I think it's an appropriate time to talk about sending photos.

Absolutely!!!

Mariposista · 08/12/2023 10:10

Your son needs to learn that your phone is a child free zone.
And your husband needs to grow up.

Aquamarine1029 · 08/12/2023 10:12

Justfinking · 08/12/2023 10:06

This

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Seeing your dad's penis in a normal setting, at home, is quite different from seeing a pic of it on your mum's phone.

Context is everything.

TinkerTiger · 08/12/2023 10:15

Mariposista · 08/12/2023 10:10

Your son needs to learn that your phone is a child free zone.
And your husband needs to grow up.

This really. Has no business being on your phone.

toddlermam · 08/12/2023 10:17

00100001 · 08/12/2023 09:47

Maybe have a think about not fucking sending each other pictures of genitals? It's grim and there's no need - you're helping normalise the sending of dick picks across SM and messaging accounts.

you're helping normalise the sending of dick picks across SM

Because two consenting, married adults send naked pictures to eachother ? Get a grip 🤣

toddlermam · 08/12/2023 10:18

Just because you wouldn't do it, doesn't mean it's abnormal for some couples!

wherethewildtbingsgo · 08/12/2023 10:19

Why was your DH sending you photos of his flaccid penis 🤣🤦‍♀️🤮

pitefhkl · 08/12/2023 10:21

00100001 · 08/12/2023 09:47

Maybe have a think about not fucking sending each other pictures of genitals? It's grim and there's no need - you're helping normalise the sending of dick picks across SM and messaging accounts.

Oh Ffs. What boring lives people do lead.

Speedweed · 08/12/2023 10:23

Thing is, was it a picture of your husband naked, or was it just his dick?

Because what might be upsetting your son is seeing a dick pic that he doesn't realise is his Dad? Seeing a picture of his naked dad has much more context.

But he'll be fine, don't panic, change your password.

JenniferJupiterVenusandMars · 08/12/2023 10:23

Needmorelego · 08/12/2023 09:56

He's probably forgotten about it by now. He's 10. He's got more important things think about like football, Minecraft and farts.

I bet he’s told all his friends too……🫣

Aquamarine1029 · 08/12/2023 10:24

pitefhkl · 08/12/2023 10:21

Oh Ffs. What boring lives people do lead.

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Only on MN does not wanting to see absurd pictures of dicks make you "boring."

Justfinking · 08/12/2023 10:28

Aquamarine1029 · 08/12/2023 10:12

Seeing your dad's penis in a normal setting, at home, is quite different from seeing a pic of it on your mum's phone.

Context is everything.

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That's true, in that case yes I'd agree not to normalise it (sending pictures ugh). Tbh I'm not even sure what you can do OP except create some elaborate lie, although chances are he's forgotten about it already

pitefhkl · 08/12/2023 10:28

@Aquamarine1029
Pull the other one.
People enjoy sex, it's not a surprise. And two consenting adults in a relationship who presumably enjoy sex with each other have sent a picture of their sex organs. Get a grip.

wherethewildtbingsgo · 08/12/2023 10:29

Speedweed · 08/12/2023 10:23

Thing is, was it a picture of your husband naked, or was it just his dick?

Because what might be upsetting your son is seeing a dick pic that he doesn't realise is his Dad? Seeing a picture of his naked dad has much more context.

But he'll be fine, don't panic, change your password.

This is actually a very good point. Maybe you need to sit him down and explain that I was daddy's penis and that you had consented to him sending the photo to you and have a conversation about consent and naked photos and explain it is only ever acceptable in a secure relationship with consent prior to it being sent.

oakleaffy · 08/12/2023 10:33

Whatdoido1987 · 08/12/2023 09:41

We have shared photos before, we're in a committed relationship and I know it's not to everybody's tastes but regardless of this the issue is making my child feel better, I don't want him to feel traumatised by it. Of course he has seen it before, they live in the same house but he wouldn't have expected to see a photo sent to me that's all...his reaction was one of upset and confusion 😫

''Upset and confusion?''...Maybe he thought it was someone else's penis?

At least it was flaccid.

{But why send a pic of a flaccid penis?} Maybe your husband was reassuring you it was still there, and hadn't fallen off.

lollo8 · 08/12/2023 10:34

Oh god what a huge fuss about nothing.

At least it wasn't erect. Although to be honest I really cannot see the point in sending a picture of a flaccid one.

Your son will be fine, and will have learned not to go through other people's phones.

oakleaffy · 08/12/2023 10:39

SnowSwan · 08/12/2023 10:07

I remember sitting going through a huge box of mixed photos with my mum when I was a child. I had the misfortune of picking up one that was my naked dad with a pair of red pants on his head. My mum freaked out and threw it on the fire. It still makes me laugh to this day. Your son will be fine.

That's absolutely hilarious! 🤣 🩲 🔥
I remember mum showing my boyfriend a notebook of mine and I did the same thing- grabbed it and threw it on the fire.

Fires were so useful, so immediate.

Kayte198999 · 08/12/2023 10:39

Speedweed · 08/12/2023 10:23

Thing is, was it a picture of your husband naked, or was it just his dick?

Because what might be upsetting your son is seeing a dick pic that he doesn't realise is his Dad? Seeing a picture of his naked dad has much more context.

But he'll be fine, don't panic, change your password.

I disagree, I've accidentally seen photos of my parents naked and it was much worse than if it had been a random person. But it is always strange to be confronted with naked bodies or genitals when you're not expecting it, no matter who it belongs to. At least with a body in front of you (seeing someone changing etc.) there is context. OP's son does deserve some kinds of explanation, not necessarily a telling off for looking at the phone.

I'm not a prude, will happily watch porn etc. but as PPs have said, if I received a flaccid penis from anyone ever then I would get an ick

Unicorn34 · 08/12/2023 10:41

I know how worried you must be feeling but it's not terrible, honestly.

Say dad is an idiot, you were having a laugh about something and dad thought it would be funny to send it. Get dad to say the same - "sorry you saw that, it was a joke between your mum and me, and wasn't meant to be seen by anyone else".

Give it a day of acting normally and he should be over it. If he's not then a little chat about what is bothering him and some gentle pushing of "it was a joke but it was sent to my phone and you shouldn't be looking" may help. Good luck x

ItAintGonnaGoDownEasyIfItAintCheezy · 08/12/2023 10:47

Whatdoido1987 · 08/12/2023 09:41

We have shared photos before, we're in a committed relationship and I know it's not to everybody's tastes but regardless of this the issue is making my child feel better, I don't want him to feel traumatised by it. Of course he has seen it before, they live in the same house but he wouldn't have expected to see a photo sent to me that's all...his reaction was one of upset and confusion 😫

That'll teach him to go snooping through people's phones then won't it, that would be the bigger issue here for me.

Go snooping, you might see or find out something you don't like 🤷‍♀️

Leah5678 · 08/12/2023 10:51

Not much you can do now. But do you not have a password/pass number on your phone ?

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 08/12/2023 10:55

I disagree, I've accidentally seen photos of my parents naked and it was much worse than if it had been a random person.

@Kayte198999 yes generally it might be worse. But on your mum's phone, it's probably preferable that the penis isn't a random man's!

Cosywintertime · 08/12/2023 10:59

Just tell him it was a medical thing that worked out to be nothing, he hurt it on his zipper or something.

the flaccid penis though, lol. Whatever floats your boat. 😂

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