Stay or leave?

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Hello mums, if you found out that your husband has another child (unknown to me when we got married - we've been marriaged roughly 5 years) and you have 4 children now with this man, do you stay together or separate? I've also had a very emotionally abusive marriage but I won't delve too much into this. Honest answers would be great. Thank you

Your dh has lied by omission.That's a pretty low thing to do.

How is the marriage apart from that? Good? Supportive? Happy? Fun? Financially sound?

Did he finally confess or did you find out another way?

Lots of things to weigh up.

Agree with PP. So much depends on circumstances of when this happened and how you found out. And the state of your marriage more generally.

If your marriage is otherwise good I’d be trying my absolute best to work through it. Separating with 4 DC involved sounds fraught.