this is my very first post so I hope I have started this thread in the right area! Long post alert.
my DS2 is 4 weeks old today. He is my second (DS1 is 2.5). DS2 has a very big stork mark on his forehead - it is in a perfect V shape between his eyebrows and right up his forehead and fades into his scalp. (My delivery was rough and needed forceps at the end so he had a lot of marks and bruising on his face at first but that’s all gone and the stork mark remains). Before we were discharged from hospital the midwife checked him over and she said to me that she would make note of his stork mark on his records as it could be mistaken for abuse - fine with me. She explained to me that they are common and normally fade. DH and I are not bothered at this point because he is in perfect health so what else really matters? My DS1 had a large stork mark on the back of his neck and his is hardly noticeable now so I assumed DS2 would be the same.
fast forward to now - I can’t tell you how many horrible and rude comments and stares my baby boy has had over the last 4 weeks :( it absolutely breaks my heart for him. He is a beautiful baby with big eyes and a cute nose and squishy cheeks. He is calm and cuddly and just so loving. So it kills me when people (both family members and strangers) have made such rude comments ‘can you get that lasered off?’ ‘Are you sure that will fade?’ ‘There’s no way that will fade look at the size of it’ and the worst of all off my nana (who I haven’t spoke to since and will cut contact for this) ‘gosh he’s lovely but what an absolute shame about that birth mark’.
my heart is shattered for him. And I’m absolutely flabbergasted - I thought stork marks were common in newborns on various parts of the face/neck but you would think no one else in the world has heard of them or seen them? DS1 had a huge one on the back of his neck which was scarlet red but not one person ever commented and it was very noticeable as he had short hair! It’s at the point now where I am googling every day about stork marks and worrying that my baby is going to go through this his whole life with this birth mark. I’m now worried that because of how prominent it is it won’t fade at all. Has anyone else had experience with stork marks on the forehead? Do they ever really fade or are they permanent? It’s put me off letting people see him as I have now become so over protective of him and even though he can’t understand I don’t want these cruel things being said about him. It’s got to the point where I’ve gone from not being bothered about this birthmark to being obsessed about it. When I take pictures of him it’s the only thing I see now. Which I know is so so wrong on every level :(