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Co-parenting advice please, I don't know what to do anymore

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Srsw · 26/09/2023 19:31

Hi I hope this makes sense as I'm not sure how to explain it all.
My Son is nearly 5 and lives with me but sees his dad every weekend.
The reason I need advice is because my Son is struggling at the moment mainly with nightmares and anger but his dad just will not listen to me.
When he is there he sits on YouTube all day with no supervision, they let him watch 16 rated violent marvel movies. I've voiced my concerns as I feel that this is really damaging to his wellbeing but I don't know how to make them understand as he keeps coming back saying he has still been doing the same thing every time he goes. I don't let him on YouTube because I instantly notice the bad affect it has on him :( whenever he stays for the weekend we have around 3 days of awful behaviour when he gets back before he's back to normal, then he goes there again, around in a cycle really.
Am I being unreasonable to think they shouldn't let him sit on the phone all day? He's so young!
We've also noticed how angry he is towards his younger sister and myself fighting saying he's learned it with dada, always comes back with weapons and guns. Idk maybe it's just a massive difference in parenting but I try SO hard to have routine and structure for it to be ruined.
Sorry it's long, thank you

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Uggtrending · 26/09/2023 19:33

Contact family mediation. If he doesn't agree you can get a form and apply to the courts. So you never see your Son on a weekend?

Srsw · 26/09/2023 19:38

@Uggtrending I've not heard of family mediation before, I will look into it thank you. He is home for 2 Saturdays a month, which isn't ideal as weekends are our family time but at least we have that

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Uggtrending · 26/09/2023 19:48

I would look at changing your pattern I'm a single parent and I look forward to having a break. Especially as my Son is school age I wouldn't be happy with nit having at least 1 full weekend with my DS. I would maybe suggest EOW and his dad could always do a weekday overnight stay.

His dad sounds totally irresponsible I'd probably refuse contact at that stage.

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