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Playdate invitation

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crazypple · 22/09/2023 20:04

Son's friend just invited him to his house for a playdate and I don’t know the boys parents at all

I just got the Mum’s number and I am wondering if to text her I don’t feel comfortable just dropping my son off without contacting her or knowing her at all

I don't even know what to text 🙄🙈

I find these situations awkward

Suggestions will be helpful and appreciated

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HangingStars · 22/09/2023 20:06

How old is he?

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crazypple · 22/09/2023 20:06

11 going on 12 nxt month

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avemariiiaa · 22/09/2023 20:07

I would say yes, but make up a white lie that he can be a bit anxious so you'd like to stay for a cup of tea and make sure he settles down ok before leaving him.
Then see how you feel when you are there.

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avemariiiaa · 22/09/2023 20:08

crazypple · 22/09/2023 20:06

11 going on 12 nxt month

In that case. Ignore my reply.

He's old enough to manage his own friendships and should be able to visit a friends house at 12 without much parental involvement.

BoohooWoohoo · 22/09/2023 20:11

Does your son have a phone ? Would he text you if he wanted to leave ?
I would get the home address and let him go tbh. I'm assuming it's for a few hours after school or over the weekend.

NuffSaidSam · 22/09/2023 20:12

'Hi, Joe's said that Barnaby has invited him over to hang out after school, I just wanted to check that's ok with you? Crazypple'

Don't call your 12 year old sons social engagements 'playdates', poor boy!

CloudPop · 22/09/2023 20:12

Just text something like
Hi - thanks for having x over, he's looking forward to it. What time shall I pick him up ?

CyberCritical · 22/09/2023 20:13

'Hi, it's X's mum. X has just told me he's been invited round to yours tomorrow so wanted to make sure you had my number in case you need to get in contact. X and [sons friends name] have arranged for him to be at yours at about [insert time here] does that work for you?'

MissAmbrosia · 22/09/2023 20:19

CloudPop · 22/09/2023 20:12

Just text something like
Hi - thanks for having x over, he's looking forward to it. What time shall I pick him up ?

This. You have to butt out a bit. It's not a play date when they are nearly secondary age. Though don't do what dd did and pretend to be vegetarian.

ijustchangedmyname · 22/09/2023 20:22

12 next month? As in year 8 at school?

You don't need to text the mum anything... It's not a play date when they're that age!😬

Mumof1andacat · 22/09/2023 20:25

He needs to give you the address and I would imagine he has a mobile himself anyway. You could offer a lift maybe to this person's house?

Gymmum82 · 22/09/2023 20:30

Your kid is 12. Has he never been to a friends house before? He’s a bit old for playdates and he’s old enough to sort out his own social schedule

Freezingcoldinseptember · 22/09/2023 20:32

Secondary school I met dc make their own mates... Sleepovers yes had a contact number though.

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crazypple · 22/09/2023 20:44

Thanks all
Apologises for the word playdate 🙈🙈

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