10 year old asked where babies come from, how much do I tell?

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As above, 10 year old son asked, seems genuinely interested.
I asked if anyone was taking about it, he said no, but said he has seen a boy doing a “finger in a hole” motion and want to understand what it means!
Anyone got a recommendation for a book I can read with him?
Any advice welcome!

Eh? I'm surprised you got to 10yo without them asking, or without discussing bodies and bodily functions like this

The truth.

How has he reached 10 and not been educated?

Mine are only 8 and 10 and are fully aware of what happens

Where Willy went is an excellent book that can be used as a starter for more question's including a diagram but not totally descriptive coupled with finger in a hole from friend could be easily explained

Tell them everything they ask to know. A 10yo is going to secondary school in a year. They’ll be told in Y6 PSHE lessons about puberty but could be teased by others for not knowing anything, or thinking that babies grow in cabbage patches etc.

Waterstones will have some decent books on puberty and growing up, but I’d also have a conversation with them rather than leave them to it with a book.

Just be factual, answer the questions that are put in front of you. Like others, I'm surprised it hasn't come up before now, either as a result of PSHE in school or just general enquiry, our 7yo DD knows how babies are made (and obviously thinks it's equally disgusting and hilarious that we had to do it TWICE to have two children 😁).

You tell him everything of course! Really unusual that you haven’t had this conversation with him before he reached the age of 10.

At 10 the full story. If he is going in to Year 6 he will be taught this at school very soon anyway.

Errr you tell him exactly how babies are conceived. He'll be at secondary before long and he should know by now.

What a great opportunity for an honest conversation and for you to affect a positive
view of sex and respect for women (or his eventual chosen partners).
My 7 year old knows proper names for parts (penis, vagina, vulva, breasts) at this age and as she has a baby brother she also understands how this happened and understands breastfeeding (and bottle feeding).
She asked me how her brother was made:
”To make a baby, a man puts his penis in a woman’s vagina and sometimes if it’s the right time of the month then a baby will be made”. She isn’t clued up on periods yet but does know some women bleed and what products are used to deal with it.
I wholeheartedly recommend having a blunt but appropriate conversation using proper terms, and giving him the opportunity to think about it and ask questions.
Better to learn from you than from his mates or porn.
Good luck!

Very late to be having the conversation! Mine all knew by 4.

He will have been taught this in Y5 and Y6.

Surely he's just finished Yr5 (possibly even Yr6 if he's a very late summer birthday) so will have covered this in PSHE? The school curriculum should be online so you can probably see what they've been taught and reiterate that

Sorry but I don't get this. My DD is 10 and has known what a period is since year 3. It was taught at school. She learnt last term about sex and certain other terms do I bought her some books to help answer her questions. Has your son done any of this at school? I got my dd the girl version of this book What's Happening to Me?: Boy (Facts Of Life) (What and Why) amzn.eu/d/aokkwNL
And the girl version of this book

The Boys' Guide to Growing Up: the best-selling puberty guide for boys amzn.eu/d/7QZLll1

My Ds10 was taught about sex and babies 2 years ago in school so I'm very surprised he doesn't know?

How has he reached 10 and not been educated? Tell him everything.
My daughter almost 5 and we been having conversations about it for the last year or so.

Honestly you need to tell him all about it. Add in some puberty books for good measure. I’m pretty sure the school will have covered it in year 5 as I know they did in my child’s school.

I just started talking about it really early in dribs and drabs and now my eldest knows and there’s no silliness around it. My youngest knows most of it too but probably is a bit silly about it 🤦🏻‍♀️

And one of the terms she came home hearing about was wet dream which she then tried to google so I would make sure he has some info asap

This Dr Ranj Book is very sensible

Yeah I had to come up with a child friendly way to explain masturbation

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This

My dc’s we’re told in an age appropriate way as soon as they became curious, which was way before 10.

Yup that's my thought, Y5 would have covered this!

Because I was pregnant so explained it to the older ones then the younger one was told as part of every day conversation- no medal necessary- just being honest with your kids about normal bodily functions.

This must be a joke. They cover it at school before this age. DS has known the basics since he was old enough to ask what I was doing when I was changing a tampon!