Are your 8.5yo having rages?

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And how are you dealing with it if so?

I am honestly at the end of my tether and need help. I'm close to finding professional help.

It depends what you mean by rages?
Are these in school or at home?
Except for having what I would call a bit of a strop when they don't get their own way I don't think going into a rage at that age is normal