You know when you're cross with your children IN PUBLIC, do you shout at them IN PUBLIC or do you just hiss?

[Twiglett]

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aha growling eh?

and if growling doesn't work?

Hiss.
Takes all my strength BUT saw a woman in the play ground shout at her ds in front of every one and it was definitely an office type moment. very uncomfortable.

I quite often shout, but not at the top of my voice, just a bit boomy-style. Not really the done thing here in Germany, but needs must and all that.

oh it is random
mad screeching at times
other times being in public helps me to be calm - the 'film crew' effect!

what if they're putting on the waterworks then?

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Waterworks prompt mum's disinterested voice and wandering off (slowly) to do something more interesting. I think it must work because they don't resort to this too often.

Gritted teeth here.
Or shouty whisper.

I have the look.

If I have been VERY cross with them in public, I have taken them to one side and spoken to them severely in a normal volume voice. I wouldn't shout at them in public but I also want them to be aware I am not at all bothered about who hears me. I never wanted them to use my embarrassment as a reason to get away with annoying behaviour.

Just a stern voice and probably me turning my back (if safe to do so!!!) similar to home. Rarely I properly lose my temper and shout either at home or out I find ignoring a more effective tactic!!

I use the , to quote dd 'Quiet voice that sacers people'

I put on a firm 'teacher' voice!

I have a look aswell, coupled with a growled menacing "don't" works every time here. Annoyingy though it does only work in public, try it at home it goes completely ignored

Wish I knew what to do in this situation. Don't like to tell off dd in front of others as a matter of principle, particularly in public, but then some public situations warrant a more emphatic 'remprimand' from me /response from her than would be necessary at home. Interested to know what others do ...

so shouting 'get out of the shop NOW' would be bad then hmm?

I do that shouty whisper thing.

Ihave been known to say to ds1 and 2 "I don't care who is listening to me tell you off, you are way more embarrassed by this then I ever will be, so when I say don;t do....etc etcetec" in the shouty whispers and that always works.

Do I get a prize for most evil mother??

That would be by far the best thing to do if it happened on a Saturday by a woman known as tutter

Mine also know if they go way out of line restorative justice is exceedingly swift, regardless of the situation or our location at the time. My children have been removed from parties when their behaviour became unacceptable and they ignored warnings

After some years of this they tend to know the boundaries when in public

I am evil though

the basketball went back on the shelf

cue tears

I am scary too

he had been told 3 times by DH not to bounce basketball in shop and 4 times by me that no he was not to go on machines in shop .. and he'd been warned he wasn't getting a new basketball if he kept it up

then I turned around and he was on the machine

I have a combination of the look and I hiss pasta at the same time.

Or, I remove him from the situation, last week he was tired and acting the maggot in the butchers, nothing major just constant interruptions. I asked the butcher to wait a moment, took DS and put him in the car, which was parked outside. Came back in finished my transaction and then got into the car and did not speak until DS did, his first words were sorry Mummy.