Help! 14 week baby still only sleeping on me

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Tonight I feel at breaking point. I feel I've tried everything.
I've tried - swaddling, dummies ( all different kinds), white noise, lying down feeding (he's EBF). I cuddle close, I've rocked him. Tried meds incase it's silent reflux. Everything. It feels like everything.

Sometimes he'll go down for a about 30mins but that's it.

I feel so exhausted and achy from sitting up all night. Dad even gives me around 4hours sleep in the evenings.

Our DD ( who slept well enough) is only two so days are busy with little time to rest. Luckily she is in nursery two days a week so I get some rest but not sleep as partner works.

I just don't know what to do

I'm currently awake with my hand on my (so far) sleeping DS2 hoping that this is the magical time that he will stay asleep... He's also 14 weeks, and does 45 minute stretches, 90 on a good day. We have a next to me crib which, having just come back from holiday, I can confirm he sleeps better in than a separate cot. For me getting a position where I can sleep without removing the crucial Hand Of Comfort is key.

Which is to say, no real advice but solidarity.

Put baby down in the day before they fall asleep and see if they settle. It'll be hard for a while but you need to be able to rest yourself

Oh that must be so difficult! Cant you ask a friend to come and help for a bit?
It is however common for babies to sleep for 45 minutes. They do not learn to paste their sleepcycles together until they are older.