Recently my DP and I made the decision to try for baby number 2 when DD (11 months) turns 1. I'm 40, and it took us a year and several losses to conceive DD, so there's not much time to hang about if we're going to do it.
We do want a second child but just had a big dose of reality in the form of a hideous stomach bug. DD sick first, bless her, then DP, then me. It took two days for symptoms to show for me & DP so we thought we'd escaped and then carnage! Such a (literally) shitty bank holiday. Both our families are 4+hrs away, so it was just luck that DP and I didn't get sick at the exact same time because we have no (free) help. Poor DP had to care for DD alone when he was just recovering because at that point I was useless. It was fairly short-lived, thank god, but I kept thinking, what if we had a newborn to care for too? It's really rocked me. 🙁🙄
I guess I'm just a big wimp looking for positive stories of how people manage two small kids with stuff like this!