Don't want my son to start nursery

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My son turned 3 in February and is due to start nursery for the first time next week. I'm beginning to have major doubts about it and don't want him to go.

We do classes and play sessions most days at the moment, but he's not very confident socially and I think he's going to struggle in a group setting. I can't bear the thought of walking away and leaving him, especially if he's in tears.

His language skills aren't the best either so I worry that he won't fully understand what's going on and that we're coming back. DH is keen to send him as he thinks it'll help his social skills, but I want to back out.

He's down for three days a week.

WWYD?

Yes I would want mine ready to hit the ground running at school. A lot is expected of them, I wouldn't want to add leaving a parent for the first time to that.

@Pugfin "Its also not 'what reception is for"

Certainly one of the things.

This is an old thread and I don't know what OP did... But what I would say is that in nursery there is much more chance for children to bond with their key worker, which allows them to be clingy and have loads of 1:1 attention till they're settled. I have 10 key children, who are not all there same day, so I have the resources to take care of children who are finding it tough. A reception teacher will be just her and one other adult for 30. THIRTY!! They just can't afford the love and attention children need to learn how to separate securely from parents.

Sounds like they need it tbh. I hope you sent them.

I think a mother's instincts knows best about your child and you should do what your gut is telling you.. everyone has completely diffrent children and lifes so do what is best for you and your child. I tried to take my daughter to pre school at 2years9months because of pressure of everyone then decided it wasn't for both of us.

If he doesn't have to go to nursery for your work or your mental health then don't send him if you don't want to. Absolutely no need.

The benefits to me outweighed 'but I don't want too' I would have felt selfish not to send

ZOMBIE

I just RTFT and @CurlewKate you've posted the exact same thing in response, 4 or 5 times over the course of the thread. Did you forget? 😅

They don't have to go to nursery!!!!