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Husband gets so angry with our son

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slightlybonkersmum · 31/03/2023 21:26

Our 5 year old boy is generally a really good boy. He is very mummy clingy and always wants me to put him to bed. I went out tonight and came home thinking my husband would have put him to bed but they were still up when I got back at 830pm. When my husband went to take him to bed my son got upset demanding he wanted mummy. My husband got so angry screaming at him far to loudly and even yelled at him that if he didn't get into bed, he would feel the back of his hand.
I was angry and this has now ended up with me fighting with my husband and telling him if he ever does that again it's over.
Have I been over the top.

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JorisBonson · 31/03/2023 21:28

Jesus, of course you aren't over the top. He's an abusive arsehole and you need to get your child as far away from him as possible.

motleymop · 31/03/2023 21:30

Oh god, that's really upsetting - how awful for your boy.

BanditsGravyStain · 31/03/2023 21:31

Over the top? I would have told him to leave there and then. He’s just threatened to assault a child. He needs a parenting course and anger management at the very least. Disgusting .

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Wolfiefan · 31/03/2023 21:31

Gets so angry? So not the first time?
Screaming at a child and threatening to hit them is abuse.

usernamechanged1 · 31/03/2023 21:32

No you haven’t been over the top. Bullying bastard.

Aquamarine1029 · 31/03/2023 21:32

You are UNDER reacting. You should leave this man right now.

usernamechanged1 · 31/03/2023 21:33

How did your son react to it?

Redburnett · 31/03/2023 21:34

Your DS is only 5, your DH befaved abusively.

Bunnyhascovidnoteggs · 31/03/2023 21:35

And now you know why your ds prefers you.
Ltb or you are an accomplice.. If you ds ever discloses physical violence you need to report him. Or post divorce he will get access.

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slightlybonkersmum · 31/03/2023 21:36

No not the first time he has screamed and shouted at our son. My son just cried and cried and cried.

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motleymop · 31/03/2023 21:37

Poor boy - he did nothing wrong

HelloBunny · 31/03/2023 21:37

Getting children to bed can be bloody hard work. Your DH clearly thought that your son would just go to bed. Obviously has no idea of the love, dedication & work you put in for your son every night. Not a clue!

PousseyNotMoira · 31/03/2023 21:38

Your husband is abusing your son. Stop letting this happen.

monsteramunch · 31/03/2023 21:40

He threatened to assault your five year old son, driving him to cry and cry and cry.

I don't know how you can bear to be near such a bully. Billy big bollocks bullying a five year old.

He's a cunt.

You'd be frightened if someone double your size shouted at you while you cried and threatened to hit you. Surely you'd leave him if he did that to you?

Him doing it to your little boy is no better. It's worse in fact because your little boy has zero power in the situation and can't walk away.

He's gone to bed scared and anxious tonight. Poor little thing.

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slightlybonkersmum · 31/03/2023 21:43

He is snuggled in bed with me now, I wasn't leaving him alone after that

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monsteramunch · 31/03/2023 21:44

He threatened to assault your five year old son, driving him to cry and cry and cry.

I don't know how you can bear to be near such a bully. Billy big bollocks bullying a five year old.

He's a cunt.

You'd be frightened if someone double your size shouted at you while you cried and threatened to hit you. Surely you'd leave him if he did that to you?

Him doing it to your little boy is no better. It's worse in fact because your little boy has zero power in the situation and can't walk away.

Do you understand the above OP? It seems you don't get how seriously awful it is maybe?

flutterbyebaby · 31/03/2023 21:45

Don't let your son grow up needing to recover from his childhood!

Wolfiefan · 31/03/2023 21:46

Not the first time? @slightlybonkersmum make it the last.

NiceParkingSpotRitaThanksJanet · 31/03/2023 22:21

If my partner did this he would be gone.

Pandyluna · 31/03/2023 22:24

It’s obvious why he’s clingy to you then, poor boy

Elieza · 31/03/2023 22:26

Sounds like you do most of the childcare. Your husband doesn’t have a clue.

When the child doesn’t do what he says he reverts to what was done to him when he was a child many moons ago as he is ignorant of modern methods and what’s now acknowledged as cruel and wrong - not to mention illegal in many countries. He probably thinks he’s doing right and is frustrated by his sons reaction and why you are reacting too. Prick.

He either has to do more and do it correctly. ie being prepared to learn and learn patience too. And put in the effort.

OR.

time to keep your son safe by leaving your husband. Sorry. Not good choices.

And tbh I doubt your husband will want to change his ways.

I’m guessing he thinks you’re too weak on the boy and he therefore feels he needs to be harder to balance out your softness as he perceives you as spoiling the child.

Sunnysunbun · 31/03/2023 22:28

All kids go through these stages. You don’t take it personally and you never get angry. My dd only wanted my oh for ages I used to just say I knew she wanted him but she was stuck with me. Clearly your son wants you because he feels safe with you and not this bully you’re married to.

GrazingSheep · 31/03/2023 22:38

What are you going to do though?

Thepossibility · 31/03/2023 22:41

Awful bully of a man. Angry

Greenshake · 31/03/2023 22:54

GrazingSheep · 31/03/2023 22:38

What are you going to do though?

Yes, this is the key question. These posts always have such a familiar theme.