potty training?

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How to potty train? Any tips or advice please for my first child.

Thanks
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We used the book "Oh Crap, Potty Training" the Summer DD1 was 2.4. It spelled it out in clear stages. We'll be doing the same for DD2 this Summer, will re-read the book first. I think we talked about potty training, read books about it and put her dolls on a little play potty leading up to it. Then on a chosen day when we had a few days off and nowhere to go in a row we took away daytime nappies and got the potties out. She just wore a T-shirt and no bottoms for a day or two then loose shorts then eventually pants and shorts. We took a travel potty lots of spare bottoms out with us and if we had a long car journey or visiting someone's house with carpet she might wear traing pants but we tried not to use them too much.

We put no effort into night training. Shortly after she was dry in the day she became dry at night so we stopped using night nappies.

I’m really hoping there is another parent who can relate / help…..
My daughter is currently 3years and 2months old and has a fear / phobia of doing any toilet outside of her nappy. She is currently in pull-ups as we moved away from nappies some time ago.
She is more than ready and has full bladder control. She has been dry at nights for months now so I now put her in pants at nights with no accidents at all and she has also started wearing them in the day too.
Some history…..
At 2-2.5yrs I started sitting her on a potty every night before her bath and she did it no problem but never once peed.
I tried many times to potty train her but she withholds her pee for long hours at a time and she has ended up with a minor urine infection twice from doing this.
She has full control of her bladder and has done so for a good 7-9 months.
She only ever pees standing up, and never does it sitting or in bed. She even refuses to pee in the bath! There is nothing that has created this fear, and she is always very upset when she has pee accidents in her pants in the day even though I tell her it’s ok.

One time when potty training her, she held her pee for so long, she could hold it no more and started to pee whilst sat on the potty and went to stand screaming in terror. It was awful 😢

Currently I sit her on the toilet for 5mins at a time, occupying her with books/toys. But she refuses to do anything and never has ‘accidents’ when playing as she has full control. (She only has accidents as sometimes forgets she has pants on during the day).
She receives a star every time she sits on toilet which leads to rewards.

Has anyone else experienced this fear? Can anyone help or provide advice on how to overcome a psychological block to peeing / pooing? It would be so much easier if it was a physical problem. How do you overcome a mental problem?

I’ve been told by HV and professionals not to push her and to go with her needs. So currently when she needs to pee or poo I have to put a pull up on her.
I’ve tried incentives of buying her what she wants and she watches her friends and me use the toilet. We read books and watch videos but nothing works.

She just has this strange awful fear. Please can anyone advise or help or relate?

Thanks

Hi, I’m a new member so forgive me if I make a mess etc !

I really need some advice please, my 8 year old son still wears nappies for bed, he’s dry during the day however still has poo accidents every so often, every night his nappy is always wet (he’s not a big drinker) and quite often he’s also been to the toilet shall we say. Now this sounds bad enough but he also picks his bum once he’s been to the toilet in his nappy and smells his fingers (sorry). During the day he’s constantly squeezing/fiddling with his privates and picks his bum. I’m really at my wits end, he says he doesn’t know why he does it.

any help would be very much appreciated. ThNk you in advance