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He's not interested in our daughter.

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CZP22 · 01/03/2023 18:56

I have a 1 year old little girl, her dad has had her every weekend since birth. A couple of months ago he started leaving her with his mum instead in a Saturday night sometimes or not having her at all.
We recently moved an hour and half away, he worked out the petrol costs to come pick her up which was the same amount as his csa payments, so I've told him to keep that to use for petrol to come see her... then he said he works on call every weekend (this wasn't an issue before) so he can't come. Now he's just taken to not responding. It's been 3 weeks since he saw her and 2 weeks since he's replied to any of my messages...not even asked how she is. His mum asks all the time aswell as his sister in law and we've worked things out between the 3 of us so she can go see and spend time with his family who are lovely. He's just not interested though :( has anyone dealt with this? Shall I just stop trying?

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RandomMess · 01/03/2023 18:59

Yep just leave it and go via CMS for child maintenance.

CZP22 · 01/03/2023 19:02

RandomMess · 01/03/2023 18:59

Yep just leave it and go via CMS for child maintenance.

We already do go through cms via direct pay x I've told him to keep it to cover petrol costs. I text him the other day to ask him to send it if he wasn't going to use it to come and see her and the money appeared in my account but no text from him. It's heartbreaking

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MintJulia · 01/03/2023 19:09

He isn't interested in his child. He doesn't care. Sorry.

It doesn't matter how much pressure you put on him, he won't be a decent father so stop trying. You are just setting your child and yourself up for disappointment.

Claim CMS and get on with building a decent life for your child, without him.

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Jessicamarie27 · 01/03/2023 19:10

CSA!

AnneLovesGilbert · 01/03/2023 19:39

It’s sad he isn’t interested. Tbh moving 90 minutes away from her dad wasn’t ever going to help their relationship. You may as well get the money.

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