Mums net is toxic

[christmasmagic]

Does anybody find that there's a lot of users on mums net that use the platform to not really want to give good advice and help each other as mams? But more to anonymously judge and make other women feel crap about what majority of people off the platform deem normal...

Obv not everyone hence the post. But I downloaded this app as a young new parent with the intent of finding good advice or reassurance but I honestly think it does more harm than good. Seems to be a toxic online community for mams and a lot of people take advantage of being anonymous to spread negativity.

Anybody else think mums net is quite toxic?

Agreed. I am not a parent and will never be a parent. I have never posted on a parenting related thread - I actually came here the first time when I was trying to escape an abusive relationship. Look at the bajillions on thread topics on here that aren't parenting related.

I find most people will give fair advice when they are being critical. But there are the odd rude and nasty ones that rather pull the person down. I remember once I went on asking for advice or if I was bu to get perspective and for the most part I was being unreasonable.

I hadn't really seen it from the other point of view at the time because of emotions running high. That what was good for me about Mumsnet. I then went ahead and made a more balanced decision in real life.

But a couple of people were still being really nasty when I came back to tell them the outcome of what I did, based on my old point of view not my new one. I figured though, they ones that are described as the trolls. There opinion doesn't matter because being nasty for the sake of it, is pointless.

However being critical when there is a need because it can help the person not go headlong into making a mistake or repeating one it is helpful.