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Grandad won't look after Grandson

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Forevermindingmyown · 08/02/2023 19:49

Long and short of it is that my Ds was sick at his CMs on Tuesday so can't have him for another 48hours so next day she can have him is Friday. Wife took 2 days off work whilst I work a 2 day conference, tomorrow we both have important meetings to attend in the afternoon, explained the situation to my boss and okayed working from home.
We rang everyone we could think of and none were available, so I rang my Dad, I don't know what I was thinking. He basically refused and said he would if he could but he can't cos he has work. I understand that but why couldn't he even notion the motion with his boss to see if they could work something out, I'm a manager myself and would hope employees having to deal with a situation like their GS being sick and being asked to babysit by their son or daughter would be perfectly reasonable to take a morning or day off work.. anyone else had to deal with a situation like this, were you annoyed at them or understanding?

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Heyahun · 08/02/2023 19:50

You need to take the day off surely

pinkyredrose · 08/02/2023 19:50

YABU for using the phrase 'notion the motion'

TheFlis12345 · 08/02/2023 19:52

Am I reading this right…. You won’t take a day off to look after your child but you expect your dad to?

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WimpoleHat · 08/02/2023 19:52

So it’s reasonable for both your son’s parents not to be able to care for him because they’re working - but the same reason isn’t valid for his grandfather? You need to take the day off or pay for emergency childcare.

Daisy95 · 08/02/2023 19:53

My boss would never ever let me or any other colleagues take leave because their grandchild is sick 😂😂they would literally laugh in our faces, it's hard enough to get time off for our actual child if they're sick!!
Yabvu!! It's your and your wife's problem unfortunately

smm88 · 08/02/2023 19:54

No tbh I wouldn't expect a grandparent to take time off work to look after the child. You sound like you are a rarity in the world of managers if you would grant this leave for your team.

My work are amazing with family leave but outwith serious illness I've never heard of grandparents asking or getting to take time off.

Suedomin · 08/02/2023 19:54

You or your partner should take the say off. Your child is not your father's responsibility. It seems very strange that you expect him to take the day off work instead of you.

MichelleScarn · 08/02/2023 19:55

why couldn't he even notion the motion with his boss to see if they could work something out, I'm a manager myself and would hope employees having to deal with a situation like their GS being sick and being asked to babysit by their son or daughter would be perfectly reasonable to take a morning or day off work.. anyone else had to deal with a situation like this, were you annoyed at them or understanding?

Why dont you or your wife 'notion the motion' to your bosses for the day off?

Tumbleweeder · 08/02/2023 19:55

You can’t ask another working person to take time off work to look after your child!

I thought you were going to say he had a game of golf he didn’t want to miss.

LittleBearPad · 08/02/2023 19:55

You’re being ridiculous. Take your own day off

mrscumberbatch11 · 08/02/2023 19:55

I thought your boss okayed you working from home?

Thehonestbadger · 08/02/2023 19:55

Are you serious? We have two toddlers who are sick all the time but we would never expect grandparents to take time off work to look after them.

ErrolTheDragon · 08/02/2023 19:56

So at this point, your wife has taken time off work, you haven't, but you think your dad should? I don't know what I was thinking ... maybe that your job is more important than other peoples?

Pinkflipflop85 · 08/02/2023 19:56

This can't be serious

Hercisback · 08/02/2023 19:56

What.... You're too important to take the day off but your dad should? Come again.

MyFlagMeansIceCream · 08/02/2023 19:56

If your wife has taken 2 days at short notice for you conference then Im afraid it's your turn to suck it up and miss a meeting. You need to both do your share of the "letting work down"

and no, I would not expect another adult to take time off to look after my child

BergamotMouse · 08/02/2023 19:57

This is ridiculous. I wouldn't even have been on your side if the grandad didn't work as completely his choice whether he wants to expose himself to a sick child.

But you're asking him to miss a day of work for your sick child???!

I have a very understanding employer and asking for a day off to look after a sick grandchild wouldn't be anything I would ever expect anyone to ask them for.

GooseberryCinnamonYogurt · 08/02/2023 19:57

TheFlis12345 · 08/02/2023 19:52

Am I reading this right…. You won’t take a day off to look after your child but you expect your dad to?

Quite unbelievable isn't it?

MintJulia · 08/02/2023 19:57

Your dad works. Why should he take a day off, when you won't? Especially at such short notice. And the child's mum won't either.

YABU.

cheeseismydownfall · 08/02/2023 19:57

How important are these "important meetings", exactly? Genuinely career-deciding, make or break opportunities? Or just the normal important meetings that are an every day fact of life for many, many working parents?

bloodywhitecat · 08/02/2023 19:57

It's your turn not your dad's.

Logburnerperils · 08/02/2023 19:58

How dare he not take a day off work to look after your child, I have no idea what the world is coming to! Meanwhile back on planet Earth, you or your wife need to take the time off.

Buymyselfflowers · 08/02/2023 19:59

Eh? Maybe grandad has a meeting?

Pixiedust1234 · 08/02/2023 19:59

This has got to be the grandfather posting, surely. Nobody is this stupid

Panicmode1 · 08/02/2023 20:00

I think you know by now you are being very unreasonable - it is not your father's responsibility to look after your child, especially if he's working.

If he were retired, then that may have been a different conversation - although it is still not your parents' responsibility to parent your child....!

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