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Grandad won't look after Grandson

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Forevermindingmyown · 08/02/2023 19:49

Long and short of it is that my Ds was sick at his CMs on Tuesday so can't have him for another 48hours so next day she can have him is Friday. Wife took 2 days off work whilst I work a 2 day conference, tomorrow we both have important meetings to attend in the afternoon, explained the situation to my boss and okayed working from home.
We rang everyone we could think of and none were available, so I rang my Dad, I don't know what I was thinking. He basically refused and said he would if he could but he can't cos he has work. I understand that but why couldn't he even notion the motion with his boss to see if they could work something out, I'm a manager myself and would hope employees having to deal with a situation like their GS being sick and being asked to babysit by their son or daughter would be perfectly reasonable to take a morning or day off work.. anyone else had to deal with a situation like this, were you annoyed at them or understanding?

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Forevermindingmyown · 08/02/2023 20:39

Literally just to sit in whilst he naps so I can go to a meeting for an hour or so. What's the issue here, I fail to see the error in my ways where In this situation I am in the wrong. I always look after my son when he is ill it's 50/50 with my wife. Just on this ONE occasion I needed his help. It was gonna be just for an hour or so.
For those of you insulting me personally, I say this at least I'm trying, trying to keep a roof over my families heads and trying to keep food in their mouths. Entitled I am not!

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chatcbt · 08/02/2023 20:41

Why is it ok for you to go to work and not your dad?

It's your child. Between you and your wife you need to sort it.

Kerri9 · 08/02/2023 20:41

Your child, you look after him! Why do you expect your dad to, if your not even willing?

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chatcbt · 08/02/2023 20:42

I would be sympathetic to an employee who had a sick child and needed emergency leave much less so to one who needed it for a run of the mill illness in a grandchild.

(Also I assumed you were in a same sex relationship)

saraclara · 08/02/2023 20:42

Forevermindingmyown · 08/02/2023 20:39

Literally just to sit in whilst he naps so I can go to a meeting for an hour or so. What's the issue here, I fail to see the error in my ways where In this situation I am in the wrong. I always look after my son when he is ill it's 50/50 with my wife. Just on this ONE occasion I needed his help. It was gonna be just for an hour or so.
For those of you insulting me personally, I say this at least I'm trying, trying to keep a roof over my families heads and trying to keep food in their mouths. Entitled I am not!

So grandad loses a day of work to watch your child for an hour?

Seriously, this is off the charts unreasonable (if indeed, it's real).

Contact a babysitting agency.

WaddleAway · 08/02/2023 20:42

Forevermindingmyown · 08/02/2023 20:39

Literally just to sit in whilst he naps so I can go to a meeting for an hour or so. What's the issue here, I fail to see the error in my ways where In this situation I am in the wrong. I always look after my son when he is ill it's 50/50 with my wife. Just on this ONE occasion I needed his help. It was gonna be just for an hour or so.
For those of you insulting me personally, I say this at least I'm trying, trying to keep a roof over my families heads and trying to keep food in their mouths. Entitled I am not!

Why is his work less important than yours?

UhhhhhhhOK · 08/02/2023 20:42

Suck it up. Pay for emergency care to look after your kid whilst you do your meetings.
or ask a neighbour and compensate them

cadink · 08/02/2023 20:46

YABU - it's your child and your responsibility. You need to take the day off not your dad, you sound very entitled.

Pardon44 · 08/02/2023 20:47

😆😅😂🤣

I read this and actually laughed out loud.

It's your kid and your problem. No one needs to look after your kid let alone take time off work to do it. Give over. Not entitled my arse.

SunshineAndFizz · 08/02/2023 20:47

Forevermindingmyown · 08/02/2023 20:39

Literally just to sit in whilst he naps so I can go to a meeting for an hour or so. What's the issue here, I fail to see the error in my ways where In this situation I am in the wrong. I always look after my son when he is ill it's 50/50 with my wife. Just on this ONE occasion I needed his help. It was gonna be just for an hour or so.
For those of you insulting me personally, I say this at least I'm trying, trying to keep a roof over my families heads and trying to keep food in their mouths. Entitled I am not!

What's the error of your ways?

You've asked if your dad can help (fine to ask), but he can't as he's working, and you're complaining he won't do it (not cool to be unhappy with him).

BCBird · 08/02/2023 20:49

You are being unreasonable to ecpectbyiur dad to take time off to look after your sick child. Even if he wasn't working he is not obliged to do this.

worried4698643 · 08/02/2023 20:50

Notion the motion 😂😂😂

Liz1tummypain · 08/02/2023 20:50

Your child is not your dad's responsibility.

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Forevermindingmyown · 08/02/2023 20:51

Mumsnetters are savage af 😂

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GrannieD · 08/02/2023 20:52

JFC do you actually say shit like notion the motion in your important meetings ??? This needs adding to my bullshit bingo for said meetings !

gamerchick · 08/02/2023 20:54

But it is entitled to think your work is more important than your dad's though OP. You can't expect someone to take time off work to look after a sick kid, so you don't have to.

You'll have to do it. If it's just an hours meeting it probably can be rescheduled or done without you surely.

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gamerchick · 08/02/2023 20:55

Oh dear.

jannier · 08/02/2023 20:55

Child is sick...parents work through their schedules and take time off according to who is best able today then other parent does the next day. It's something you agree before you have children and both parents do their share.

clpsmum · 08/02/2023 20:55

TheFlis12345 · 08/02/2023 19:52

Am I reading this right…. You won’t take a day off to look after your child but you expect your dad to?

This! Hilarious! Some people or so entitled!!

lifeinthehills · 08/02/2023 20:56

Grandad has his own work. Why is his work less important than yours?

Even if he was retired, nice if he can, but he's not obliged to. If he has a social group on or just doesn't want to watch your son who might be contagious, that's up to him. Presumably he has raised his kids and cared for them when sick. Your turn.

GoodChat · 08/02/2023 20:56

What did that deleted post say? This thread is funny!

CrystalCoco · 08/02/2023 20:57

Forevermindingmyown · 08/02/2023 20:51

Mumsnetters are savage af 😂

They sure are! Got your arse well and truly handed to you 😅

Coming away with 'notion the motion' didn't do you any favours either 😜

SunshineAndFizz · 08/02/2023 20:57

GrannieD · 08/02/2023 20:52

JFC do you actually say shit like notion the motion in your important meetings ??? This needs adding to my bullshit bingo for said meetings !

Get all your ducks in a row.

Grandad won't look after Grandson
CMVB · 08/02/2023 20:58

Yeah, no. Your child is your responsibility not your dads. If anyone should be taking time off work it’s you.