Hi I'm a newbie here and looking for some reassurance that I'm not going OTT with my ex hub and his new wife's care of my DD ( 13) when she has a cold 🙈. I just found out off DD they've been giving her Night nurse
She's had manageable sore throat and common cold symptoms which imo can easily be managed by rest , Calpol , or even odd paracetamol tablet now. Night nurse is a pretty strong cocktail of drugs plus alcohol , and clean knocks out my DPs dad 😂. Thing is his new wife is a pharmacy technician 🙄and consulted her bnf book which stated it was fine for over 12s ( unlike sale license of age 16). The night nurse leaflet is full of warmings so I don't care about bnf tbh! Imo it's a strong drug that's not necessary for her. Exes wife has basically advised him to give my DD this and I'm really not happy . His new wife doesn't have a good relationship with me so I can't raise my concern with her . She was a friend of mine and started a relationship with my ex when we were separating ( me and ex and kids were still all living together ) and she involved my kids and all sorts far too soon. Despite this, I'm happy to talk to her , have no problem with her and it's been 3 years now since ex and I divorced. We have all since moved on with our lives , but they live around the corner and she refuses to be civil - won't even say hello or answer the door to me or to anyone related or connected to me; and my ex tells me she thinks I'm a hypocrite and drama queen for reasons I am honestly oblivious to 🙄. I've raised the medicine issue with my ex hub and he's saying that his wife knows best because she's a pharmacy technician . She's certainly not qualified to diagnose or prescribe and I myself am more qualified in a professional medical capacity , so its abit annoying that my opinion as my DDs mother isn't taken into account. My DD is far too young to be having night nurse when there are easily loads of other medications she can safely have for a simple cold. I'm always reluctant to raise any concerns as they are both so unapproachable and get super defensive when I raise anything to do with my girls - saying I'm controlling and a drama queen. Believe me ...I rarely approach them , I only ever raise the odd thing that I believe I should be involved in about my girls care/ school etc . I communicate in a non attacking way and I pick my battles and let a lot go . Im not trying to control what goes on in their home here ( he will say I am ), I'm concerned about my Dad's welfare. I think this is a subject ok to raise with him. Do any of you lovely Mums agree or should I have left it?