Which did you find easier: no kids to 1 or 1 to 2?

[littlepurplerose]

Just wondering what you found more challenging & why?

Going from no kids to 1 or going from 1 kid to 2?

(I have 1 and hoping to conceive the next later this year)

1-2 was way harder for me. 0-1 felt quite easy as newborns nap a lot, I could stay in bed most of the morning feeding, cuddling and napping, stick them in their pram and go shopping or for a walk, park up on the sofa and watch netflix all day whilst feeding and contact napping. Piece of piss.

trying to navigate a toddler on top of a newborn, wrangling both their routines and factoring in nursery pick-ups was overwhelming and exhausting. I hated the early days of having 2.

0-1 easy, 1-2 dreadful because 1 hated 2, 2-3 was great, 3-4 was a shitshow.

1 to 2 definitely

One kid to two was a piece of piss in comparison to none to one. Suppose loads of it depends on the children and their personalities but I had PND with DC1 and not with DC2. Think a lot of that was down to knowing what was coming with the birth and the early months, and being less frightened. Also, with experience, more able to anticipate a baby’s needs, so less frustrated/worried.

I’d say we were happier than when I had just the one. Somehow life felt a lot more social and fun, though it was very busy. On reflection it might just have been that I relaxed enough to enjoy it, but either way I’d have had three under five if I’d been able😍

1-2 all the way. I was 24 with my first and 30 when I had my second so I was obviously older with more experience by then. And my 2nd was a lot easier than my first because she hardly cried.

I found 0-1 a bit of a shock but you only have 1 to think about.

I found 2-3 hardest
Then 1-2
0-1 was easiest

This frank summary made me laugh. I have a friend with four kids who said in response to me asking about coping (because I wanted a third but wasn’t sure I could deal) said it’s never Baby Three that’s the problem it’s the fact they’ll have you thinking fuck it let’s have four🤣

1-2 was so hard.
0-1 was a huge shock but when the baby slept I could watch TV, clean, cook or shower.
When DD2 was born there was never time for that as I spent that time with DD1.
It didn't help that DD2 had silent reflux for the first 6 months and couldn't sleep.
Saying that, I have friends who say that 1-2 was easy for them... I think it largely comes down to how needy both kids are.
I love having two now, they are 15 months apart and can't imagine it any other way

0-1 was hell. 1-2 was lovely. But my second daughter was a far far easier baby than her non sleeping, refluxy colicky older sister. If it had been the other way round I would be in for an unpleasant shock.