Dummies yay or nay - pros and cons

[Lanzy]

Dummies yay or nay?

My little one is nearly a month old, we haven’t used dummy until last night at 4am when she wouldn’t settle even after feed, change, rocking. We have avoided but just thinking what are the pros and cons of them? And do you just use when needed? The one thing I worried is she is often sick when on back at times and with dummy in would be worried it would be choking hazzard

Had seen some find it difficult to get their little ones off💜🥰

Don't ask this question on here. People make it into a moral issue. Just use one of the baby takes to it and you find it helps, and don't if not!

I definitely wouldn't do without my kid having a dummy eldest is a thumb sucker, so my 3 year old has one. Some will cal me a bad mum but she needs to self soothe at times and this is better than other options. We'll get rid of it soon, which is the downside as this will become a battle, but at least you can get rid of it instead of the thumb

You should really think about what your writing, your accusing mums/parents of denying their child comfort when that really is not the case at all, but believe what you want

This. Hate them and the look awful, especially on toddlers.

I can't he incorrect in my opinion...that my opinion! You must have an easy baby and being defensive kind of says it all

Anyway you do you - you clearly need to think about what you are writing but like others have said, can't be doing with explaining that

Toddlers yes I agree with

But op babies is a month old

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@ClubhouseGift I actually couldn't care less what others think about me using a dummy
Nobodies else's business other than mine but you are giving poor Ill advice to mums

But hopefully op can see that it really is down to each of their own
Not strangers on the internet being horrid

Of course you can be incorrect in your opinion 😂

It probably won’t stop you thinking it, but it doesn’t make you right. I could be of the opinion the sky is green, but I would be incorrect.

My daughter is a toddler now, but as I said, she was prem, in NICU, had reflux and was sick after nearly every feed until she was 7/8 months and woke every 2 hours.

That’s nobody’s definition of easy. I still didn’t need to resort to fake comfort to replace me.

If you are breastfeeding and you give your baby a dummy instead of your nipple then yes you are denying the comfort they’re asking for.

We can’t keep quiet and not say things just because others don’t want to hear it.

@ClubhouseGift ok....fair enough
Well you're wrong in your opinion so let's beg to differ 🤣

I've used a dummy with both mine.
My 5 yo only had hers for sleeping after about 2, completely gone by 3 she has the most perfect teeth and her speech was always much more advanced than her peers.

My 7 month old has one now and he only has it for sleep or on the car as he's not a fan. I only have to put it back in once a night (he's in his own room 8pm till 8am)

It reduces the risk of SIDS, I was advised to give them both a dummy by the midwife as they were c section babies with bad reflux x

Mine were BF and I didn't use dummies with either of mine and with both once they got to 6mo and had bad nights I wished I had but it was too late. I think if I have a DC3 I will definitely use one. I believe they are supposed to reduce the risk of SIDS in FF babies.

I was advised to use one by a gastro peadiatrician with my daughter who was bf and had severe reflux as it helps neutralise the acids. I didn't as we used other techniques along with medication.

Used one with my bottle fed daughter as she was a very sucky baby, wouldnt settle and I couldn't just keep giving her bottles. Again she was refluxy (but not as bad) and it helped with the sickness. She only tended to have it when asleep or tired/grumpy. We stopped using it just before her 1st birthday. Had a couple of nights with her being tired/fed up and not having a dummy. But got over it really quick.

I feel like dummies are the most contentious thing in parenting or maybe a close second next to sleep training. Even breastfeeding doesn't provoke such strong reactions.

I hate the look of them even with tiny babies but mine was a terrible sleeper. Offered it in desperation one night when she'd been crying for ages and rocking and feeding was doing nothing. She didn't take it and we didnt try again.

Super relieved as her cousin is 2.5 and absolutely resisting all attempts from her parents to get rid of it. But my husband and I were both thumb suckers and I'm sure both people think that's worse.

I don't judge people who use them, it's a personal preference.

"We can’t keep quiet and not say things just because others don’t want to hear"

This is ridiculous lol.
Since when did having babies become best parent competition.

You should really do some research about dummies, it's not all bad mainly positive

My little girl has them, and thankfully past the newborn stage she never wants one in the day just to use casually. Only at sleep times. She will use it to comfort her to sleep and then it's spat out.

If I have another I would definitely use a dummy again, it's comfort for them. As someone said the reduce of SIDS. I think if you're going to use one you have to be prepared to just take it away when the time comes. Don't let it become the be all and end all for the baby

What on actual earth😵‍💫

Wow you really are such an ignorant, angry person aren’t you. Open your eyes a bit, not everyone is in the same life situation as you. Try having premature twins with colic, or a baby who wants to comfort suck 16 hours straight when said twins are toddler, resulting in PND. Both situations I have been in, and I’m so so glad I gave them a dummy. It literally gives them comfort. With the twins I took the dummy away at 5 months but actually regretted it as they were so happy with them. Stop being a snob, try and understand that life is different for anyone, and to be honest try and figure out why you feel the need to write such bitter things on an Internet forum.

My last post was for @ClubhouseGift if that wasn’t obvious

We didn't.

Honestly can't get worked up about them.

Mine have had them but we were lucky they seemed to toss them aside quite early on as babies.

In an ideal world we'd love to sit and comfort our babies all day long. We don't live in an ideal world.

Babies find sucking comforting. If not BF or even if you are they still have their uses. I'm not sure why people prefer to let their babies get overly upset if a dummy could soothe them.

You do you OP. You'll always get people like @ClubhouseGift with bullshit strong opinions.

Congratulations on your baby. 😀

Its not really denying comfort is it though because it is still bringing them comfort?
It’s no different to giving them a comforter to cuddle instead of another feed when they’ve just had one.
Plenty of babies want to suck but don’t actually want milk, otherwise they wouldn’t be happy with a dummy, their thumb or a raggy piece of cloth.

My baby only slept with a dummy in her mouth for the first 7 or so month.

Cool for you if you spent the entire night awake with your nip in your babies mouth. I slept while she had a dummy instead.
Maybe the lack of sleep is why you’re so bitter.

Plenty of people dress their baby in ugly clothes that “look awful”, doesn’t mean it’s bad for their baby.

People so fucking weird about dummies.

Someone please explain this bizarre moral high ground people seem to think they hold?

Babies smearing puréed peas and broccoli all over their gobs also looks awful, should people not wean babies then? 😂

What some people don't realise you can give them a dummy but it won't stop them sucking their thumb if they want to.

And it reduces SIDS in formula fed babies. Breastfeeding reduces SIDS.

@ClubhouseGift *Incorrect. I had a prem NICU baby with reflux who was sick after nearly every feed until she was 7/8 months and woke every 2 hours every night.

Still didn’t resort to the easy option and refuse to give her my comfort.*

Ahh, bingo. So you’re a mummy martyr who thinks they are somehow better for taking the ‘harder’ option and making their life more difficult and are jealous of those with an easier time so to cope with that you lash out at other mums and claim they are bad mothers. Got it 👌
What a peach.

Too bad your toddler woke every 2 hours, maybe you should have tried a dummy.