Positive stories of having two+ boys

[Algor1thm]

I'm having my second little boy and final baby. I've had a lot of negative responses to telling people the gender. My dad went on at length about how he was disappointed for us because having two boys is such a nightmare (they'll be loud and boisterous and fight with each other) and a girl would have been so much easier. Most other people have said that now I'll need to have a third (I won't be) or some other form of commiseration. Lots of comments about how boys grow up and leave you and basically don't give a shit about you as an adult.

Please can I hear your positive stories of having two or more boys? As little ones or teenagers or adult children. Mine will have a 3 year age gap.

I have 4 boys and we are one of those families- chaotic and loud (I compare us to cheaper by the dozen!) but they don’t fight. They’ve argues a little but not much and we live in a very happy house. Don’t mind people, if you’d had a girl they’d have found a way to comment on that too!!

As an alternative perspective, I’m the girl in a boy/girl family, and me and my brother have never been close. We have absolutely nothing in common with each other apart from our mum. I’ve always wished I had a sister that I could have a close relationship with, and I suspect he’d have preferred a brother.

I have 2 boys, 20 and 17, and they might scrap a bit in the house but the loyalty outside is unreal. Youngest has ASD and if anyone says a bad word about him, oldest will knock their block off.

I have two brothers who I am super close to, they are fabulous people. No sisters

i have three boys. They are fantastic. They don’t fight and aren’t particularly loud either. Two are teens, one younger. They are all into sports and music (play instruments etc).

it’s rubbish to say boys fight, are rough etc. children are all individuals.

Two adult sons here, two years apart.
Yes they were boisterous so physically demanding but they were also best of friends as children. Very affectionate and loving. The hardest years were 0 to 5 and after that they were a dream, even as teens.
No drama, ever, what you see is what you get with them.
Friends who had a boy / girl mix found it much tougher as they never got on.

On a practical level you can hand down clothes and overall they were never much interested in clothes.

By starting this thread, you’re actually feeding into the nonsense.

Your dad is a bit of a dick really I mean you don’t determine this the male does so how on earth can you be unreasonable for something you didn’t control.

boys are fab, I have 4!! I’d tell your dad to bugger off he doesn’t need to have anything to with them if that is his opinion. Mine are just boys, were never wild just played and behaved as children do. Sometimes hyperactive, or boisterous if excited, but cuddly and loving and sweet and kind and just lots of good fun and nice memories.

I was so disappointed with DS2 being a boy at the time, but he is the most gorgeous, sweet little boy imaginable. Every bit as delightful as any girl. I do have an unexpected and late girl though and they are best of friends.

All siblings fight sometimes.
My sons are 5 years apart (they are dc1 and dc3) and how well they get along depends on what stage dc3 is going through. For example dc3 is going through a stage where he's started to be interested in fashion and grooming so can get lots of advice from dc1 (Dc1 is 21 and dc3 is 16 ) They often had the same interests eg gaming or cars which is nice.

Your dad is talking bollocks. I have 3 boys, 3 years apart and they are great fun, all teens. They do bicker and sometimes physically playfight which can be annoying but better then my sister and me who actually fought! You just shove them out into the garden or the garage when they need to let off steam.

They are also really close which I think is nice as they have lots of shared interests (games, gym, cars, guitar etc). They definitely interact more often and more frequently and more positively than friends who have one boy and one girl imo. When it's one of each they seem to eaither totally ignore each other or actively dislike each other.

@Algor1thm I grew up with 3 brothers, one older, 2 younger ( less than 12 months between them). I completely and utterly disagree with the characterization you've been given of having 2+ boys!!

Our house was noisy, boisterous and full of fun. Yes, there was mud, footballs, bugs, things getting thrown, fighting at times, ''competitive'' board game playing, jokes (including practical ones!), but most of all there was love, kindness, hugs, and laughter. Of the 4 of us, I was possibly the naughtiest & most trouble! They all say I got away with murder being the only girl lol :-)

They are fiercely protective & adoring towards our Mum. It's not changed, they look at her like she is the best thing since sliced bread.

I only have one little boy but if I'm lucky enough to have a second baby then I'd love for him to have a brother!

I've got 3 adult sons, they are all delightful and have given me so much pleasure over the years. I longed for a girl, but it wasn't to be, and I love my boys so much!
You will have great fun with yours, I'm sure, don't let other people's comments put you off.

I dunno, from a mum with 1 DD and 1 DS, they do a pretty good job of flighting like cats and dogs. Cannot say it could be much worse with 2 DS! It all depends on their nature and temperament.

I have three little boys. Even strangers commiserated with me on my third gorgeous, baby boy. I was furious. I have never been disappointed with my boys. I adore my boys. They are very different. Two of them are more boisterous and one is calmer and more gentle. Sometimes they fight, sometimes they sit and colour. The whole boys grow up and leave you thing is bull shit. There is no guarantee that having girls makes them any more likely to live up the road and always be around. I want my children to grow up happy and successful. If that means they live in my back bedroom so be it. If that means they relocate to the other side of the word then so be that too!!

18 months between my boys. They're in their 20s now but, oh, what a joy! And a heartbreak now they're adults...I wish I could scoop them up and go back in time!

But they are still incredible and wonderful and I'm so, so proud of them both.

Enjoy yours OP, it goes so very fast.

I have 3 boys. I don't relate to any of the stereotypes about boys fighting / being noisy / being hyperactive. My first is very gentle, sensitive, quiet and well behaved. He's a little star actually. Loves nothing more than a good chat over a hot chocolate! Second is so easygoing he's practically horizontal. He's been absolutely no bother since day 1. As long as he's fed and not ill, he will happily get on with his own thing, coming over now and then for a cuddle and a kiss. Third is only a baby but he's been absolutely fine - a cheeky little chap and I think possibly going to be the most mischievous but we shall see! People often say oh your house must be like a wrestling ring / chaos / a nightmare but it's not at all. We are all pretty chilled. And there is zero play fighting and screaming and any of that because I just don't think that's their personalities. They all love cuddles though! I've never had so much affection and love in all my life as I do with my 3 boys. Not that that's a boy thing - I'm sure girls are just the same! - but just to counteract the idea I see a lot that boys prefer their dads or aren't as close to their mums. I adore my little boys and I'm always sad when I see people wishing they didn't have sons or think that having sons means they miss out. Boys are wonderful and a real blessing. And no, I didn't have 3 because I wanted a girl - we always planned 3 as both of us are from families with 3 DC and this just feels right to us. It just so happened they all came out boys!

I have 3 kids total, middle and youngest are boys, 5 years apart.
They can be boisterous (mainly superhero fighting games) but Ds1 has always played very well with his little brother, being careful not to hurt him, letting him win but not make it obvious etc. Ds2 couldn’t ask for a better big brother.
They do fight and argue sometimes but always get over it quickly and are fine with each other again.
I agree with pp that whether they get on is down to the parenting and personalities.

Also meant to say Ds1 is now 13, sometimes he’s a moody teen, sometimes he’s his sociable and funny self, he’s more affectionate than his sister and tells me he loves me near every day so I wouldn’t think the stereotypes of boys growing up and leaving are necessarily true, I hope not anyway.

I have 3, all adults now
They all have different personalities, which aren't defined by sex obviously.
They have all achieved well and are all loving and kind
Middle one in particular is very protective
There are 3.9 years between each, and there was no sibling rivalry and they all get on well

Your post sounds so much like my life and my three boys I had to check the user name, thought did I write that post and forget 🤣. Especially the bit about the middle child being horizontal!

I have 3 sons and they are an absolute joy, please don’t listen to anyone telling you that they are going to be a nightmare! When I was pregnant with our 4th child everyone was expecting us to be desperate for a girl, but we were quite excited at the prospect of another boy. Congratulations, 2 boys is so much fun.

I have 2 boys, now 24 and 21. They are great friends and always have been. Shared interests and really can rely on each other. I am close to both of them.

It really does depend on their personalities - children are different regardless of sex.

you could have two boisterous boys.. you couid have two boisterous girls.

I have DS1 (22) and DS2 (14). I dealt with this issue by heading it off at the pass as I suspected it would happen from some quarters. Basically I made it very clear that it didn’t matter to us what DS2 was , that no child of mine would be a disappointment after 3 mcs and earlier failed ivf attempts , and basically gave them the impression that if any comment was made about it being a shame, or a disappointment, they would not be seeing either of them. I didn’t put it as bluntly as that but the inference was clear.

I would not change my two for the world. They get on great despite the large gap. Personally I loved the traditionally boys stuff - Star Wars light sabres etc. I also believe that this stuff about losing sons is a self fulfilling prophecy -if you are a good MIL there is no reason why you won’t have a great relationship with your adult married or partnered sons.

All siblings fight, not just boys! I have one of each and they have terrible fights. My friend has 3 daughters and she has to leave the house sometimes because their awful fights get her down.
My daughter is loud and boisterous and my son is very quiet. I'm tired of these stereotypes.