Positive stories of having two+ boys

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I'm having my second little boy and final baby. I've had a lot of negative responses to telling people the gender. My dad went on at length about how he was disappointed for us because having two boys is such a nightmare (they'll be loud and boisterous and fight with each other) and a girl would have been so much easier. Most other people have said that now I'll need to have a third (I won't be) or some other form of commiseration. Lots of comments about how boys grow up and leave you and basically don't give a shit about you as an adult.

Please can I hear your positive stories of having two or more boys? As little ones or teenagers or adult children. Mine will have a 3 year age gap.

I have 2 wonderful boys, now fine young men. They are amazing people and I’m immensely proud to be their mum. I’ve never felt any regret at having boys and never had any negative comments either.

Your husband is far less likely to leave you. Statistically.
I have two boys now 20 and 17 and what time has taught me is that for us, two of the same gender has been absolutely the best outcome.

I have two boys 3 years apart, now in their 30s, both married. They NEVER fought (very different personalities and could always negotiate). It was so easy as they shared interests, toys, even friends.

One of the best things was the house was always filled with boys and each could join in with the other’s ‘crowd’. They’re very close and were each other’s best men.

I would say though that you have to work harder to form a connection. With their Dad they made a band of three with sports, films etc. So I took them to different things ( bands, shows, exhibitions) that I could share without their dad. We still do that to this day. You need to find a shared space that isn’t masculine.

Honestly I think my husband missed out more by not having a daughter than I did.

Seriously don't worry OP, I have two boys with a 6 year age gap.

They get on so well.

They cuddle, youngest idolises older boy. They also fall out and clash but it's nothing major. The younger one has a temper but we don't let him away with it.

They hold hands a lot of their own accord and completely melt my heart every single day.

They sit together to watch TV and are like a little double act. Much of it works because youngest loves his brother and our older boy is very good natured and caring.

Both of them spend time away from each other too.

I've never heard this attitude to boys IRL Only ever on MN. I always wanted 2 boys. I got 2 boys. They're totally fab. Congrats OP.

I have one of each, 2 years apart. They are loud and boisterous and fight with each other all the time. They are also brilliant and lovely and best friends.

The sex means nothing, kids are kids.

Brothers and sisters bicker like mad too....

My Dd and ds are either bickering or conspiring together 🤣

I have two beautiful boys. When I have told people this before, they have given me the sympathetic head tilt. I feel like saying to them "have you SEEN my boys?". How anyone could think I could be disappointed with them is a mystery to me. I feel so lucky to have them. They are affectionate, kind, loving and HILARIOUS.

I have two boys who never fight, and I was one of three girls and we fought like cat and dog!

Assuming you're not planning on raising them under the phrase "boys will be boys", personality is all that matters.

Totally agree with this.

I have 3 boys, honestly I don't understand why people would be negative. Boys are easy! They really are. They do bicker but no more than me and my sister used to when we were younger.

Two boys and a girl. They have never fought and are all unique personalities with different pluses and challenges.

I have 3 ds so can not compare to having dd. They are still full of cuddles even as teenagers. Ds2 loves shopping and clothes so I always ask his opinion on what I buy/wear. They were into the same things when they are younger - they always had loads of fun at the park/beach/woods etc and other children would want to join their 'gang'. They are all so different- ds1 is into maths/tech/science ds2 is into clothes/anime/gaming ds3 is into sports/gaming.

I really don't understand the negativity about boys. Mine are great fun!

I have 3 boys (13, 11 & 7) they are absolutely gorgeous, really caring, thoughtful human beings, they are loud and full of life. They wear their heart on their sleeve. There is the occasional bickering but they don't really fight. They all get on with each other, they like the same things and share toys and clothes.

The 7 year old is currently in bed next to me, he just reached out to stroke my arm.

They love me fiercely. Our middle son always picks and brings me flowers or brings a blanket when I am sat on the sofa. They all love snuggles

I wouldn't have it any other way!

I have 3 boys and a girl. All of them are amazing and have such lovely individual personalities but they really do adore each other too. My teen DD is no more easier than the boys. I’m fact she is the most like me, which is the scariest thing now that she is a teen! She is also the “fightiest” out of the lot of them.
Eldest DS is very calm and gives the best advice. Middle DS was hard work as a toddler because he never stayed still, but as a teen he is so much fun to be around. Youngest DS can irritate his older siblings but that is because he adores them and wants to be around them all the time. DD is very independent, artsy and challenges everything. If anybody suggested that she was easier or calmer than her brothers, I’m pretty sure she would give them a piece of her mind!

I've got 3 boys, they are all grown up and I'm almost 70 (few months to go) and it is lovely when they get all protective, "don't do too much mum" "are you tired" "let me get that for you" I love it and I feel cherished and loved.

You will have a great time with them, yes they will be boisterous yes they will make a mess but that's kids not just boys.

My three boys give me much less trouble than my one daughter! Love all of 'em.

I firmly believe you 'get' what you need personality wise, if that makes sense.

My boys have brought out the kid in me. I discovered I actually like roller coasters, I love doing adventure activity type stuff (hated it when younger), my oldest has stuck up for me when his dad was being a bit of a prick and gave me a hug and said I was doing great, they love their gran (my mum), they are very caring, and they love that im a bit of a PC gamer mum (thanks to them!)

Their sex doesn't come into it, its just who they are and how they are brought up. People who say shit like they don't care about you when they are older are just projecting their own feelings and disappointment about how THEIR kids have developed.

Bring them up to be kind, loving and respectful and it won't matter whether they are male or female.

My boys are a bit feral at times and are sworn enemies but really they love each other and share a bedroom and are actually really considerate of each other (older one got given something dinosaur themed for Xmas and gave it to his little brother as he knows he loves dinosaurs).

People are rude and it's cruel imo to be so dismissive and judgemental especially about a baby that isn't even born!!

My boys can be a bit boisterous but so can all children regardless of sex! My boys are also loving and kind and funny and the three of us are always off on adventures together and I'm always complimented on how polite and well behaved they are when we are out and about!

Op you'll be fine, your boys will be wonderful and I wish you all the best in your pregnancy and birth.

Tell rude fuckers to piss off!

This is one of those situations I never come across in real life, only on MN.

I have two boys, just over a year between them in age, both now teenagers. They don’t fight and they’re not boisterous. They are like chalk and cheese in terms of personalities and they just completely ignore each other and coexist. I wish they would do things together but they don’t.

I was hugely relieved to discover I was having boys. I always imagined girls would be harder work (as a generalisation, obviously with lots of exceptions).

I love having boys - they are affectionate and don’t fuss. They make me laugh every single day. two of the same sex is easier clothes wise and hobby wise (both in the same clubs)

but I would love girls if I had them I’m sure - you love your own kids I’m sure no matter what

I've said this before on similar threads; my brother is much closer to my parents than I am, both emotionally and geographically. He sees them more regularly than I do and is in more regular contact. I have two boys myself and have felt the same as you, but they get on so well now that I wouldn't swap them for the world. I do make Suey DH models good behaviour in terms of contacting his mother though!

I have 4 boys aged between 16-27. They're all great friends and have a been great fun to raise.

I have three kind, lovely, funny teen boys (14,17&19).
Forget other people's outdated attitudes. When I was pregnant with ds3 and didn't know the sex my FIL said 'I hope you have a baby girl so you will have help around the house' I laughed as my DH was cooking and cleaning up as FIL said this (same FIL who would not make a cup of tea for himself).

My boys all cook, one sews and does any alterations needed on clothes.
Boys adore their mothers so congratulations!

I've got 2 girls and they still fight all the time. They are also mental and hyper (3&5) I can't imagine that boys wld be much different to be honest.

I also got the oh will you be trying for a boy then 🙄 is ur dh disappointed?