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So fast asleep that I didn’t wake up with everyone knocking?

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:01

I have a 6 week old and I’ve been getting less sleep although not that less last night. Something really weird just happened. I cosleep with baby (safely), we both fell asleep 2 hours ago, baby woke up crying and I didn’t wake up as I didn’t hear him. My brother from the other room heard him crying and came knocking on my bedroom door which was locked, I still didn’t wake up. Some other people too came knocking I didn’t hear. I woke up mins later and many missed calls later. I have no idea how this just happened. And honestly I’m so worried. My family are so scared that I had fainted or something but I hadn’t. I don’t know what to do I’m so scared and feeling so.. weird about what just happened. I’m never such a heavy sleeper that I wouldn’t wake up after all this.

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:01

Apparently baby was screaming from right next to me. And I didn’t wake up. Everyone was banging on my door too and I woke up ages later

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MoanySloney · 09/12/2022 18:03

I think you're probably absolutely exhausted. I wouldn't best yourself help.

But moving forwards co sleeping is not a good idea. Neither is sleeping with the door locked.

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:07

MoanySloney · 09/12/2022 18:03

I think you're probably absolutely exhausted. I wouldn't best yourself help.

But moving forwards co sleeping is not a good idea. Neither is sleeping with the door locked.

I understand but baby will not sleep anywhere else at all. He sleeps on the other end of the bed with a huge gap between us and is on top of the duvet too

i was tired but not overly tired if you get what I mean. I’m so worried

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:17

Does this sound like something to worry about or am I being silly being so worried and upset?

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EmilyGilmoresSass · 09/12/2022 18:20

Wouldn't really advise locking the door tbh. Had that been a fire...

Crimsonripple · 09/12/2022 18:20

Locking the door is more worrisome particularly if you're sleeping deeply.

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:21

I know 😭 I just have the habit but I’m so scared to lock it now. I don’t know why I didn’t wake up with baby scream or my family knocking or banging on my door. I didn’t even think I was that tired

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toomuchlaundry · 09/12/2022 18:24

Could you have a bedside crib/cot rather than co sleeping? Is there anyone who can help you so you can catch up with sleep whilst someone else looks after your baby?

Hugasauras · 09/12/2022 18:24

It does sound weird but I've always woken immediately when baby stirs. Do you mean cosleeping in same bed? I would knock that on the head if you are unable to be roused like that.

Albgo · 09/12/2022 18:25

Please don't let your 6 week old sleep on top of a duvet. What you have described is not safe co sleeping.

I imagine you're absolutely exhausted and that's why you slept so deeply.

Co sleeping is great, but you need to do it properly to be safe.

Please follow the advice from the lullaby trust: www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/

bakewellbride · 09/12/2022 18:25

Baby should not sleep on top of a duvet as it's not safe - a firm and flat surface is best.

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:25

toomuchlaundry · 09/12/2022 18:24

Could you have a bedside crib/cot rather than co sleeping? Is there anyone who can help you so you can catch up with sleep whilst someone else looks after your baby?

We do have a bedside cot but he refuses to sleep in that too! He will sleep in it for no longer than 5 minutes it’s crazy. My husband helps a lot as do my in laws and my family are around almost everyday to help too

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Alexandernevermind · 09/12/2022 18:26

You must be exhausted, bit that really does not sound like co sleeping safely, unless you have the crib in bed with you?

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:26

Hugasauras · 09/12/2022 18:24

It does sound weird but I've always woken immediately when baby stirs. Do you mean cosleeping in same bed? I would knock that on the head if you are unable to be roused like that.

Yes, in the same bed with a gap between us and I was unable to wake up. That’s why I’m so worried because apparently baby was screaming loudly. I’m so confused right now

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Hugasauras · 09/12/2022 18:26

I understand but baby will not sleep anywhere else at all. He sleeps on the other end of the bed with a huge gap between us and is on top of the duvet too

This is not safe cosleeping. Look up Lullaby Trust and the safe seven.

MrsMontyD · 09/12/2022 18:27

Definitely doesn't sound safe even without you waking up, I think you need to check the guidelines again.

pjani · 09/12/2022 18:27

Baby is on the duvet? That’s not safe co-sleeping either, baby should be on a hardish mattress. There are ways to safely co-sleep but sounds like you might want to stop co-sleeping now?

There are techniques for settling a baby in a cot, I did it older but roll baby onto their side, pat bum while singing lullaby (while they cry, I’m sorry to say) and roll them back onto their back when they fall asleep. That’s just an example.

I’m sorry this happened, must have been a huge shock.

toomuchlaundry · 09/12/2022 18:27

Where does your partner sleep?

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:27

I understand and we are trying so hard to make him sleep in his cot but he’s so stubborn. It’s so difficult. I don’t even think my head is in the right space right now

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:28

toomuchlaundry · 09/12/2022 18:27

Where does your partner sleep?

My husband has been sleeping on the sofa lately

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:29

I definitely am going to stop cosleeping now especially after what happened today. Not taking the risk at all it’s so worrying and so scary. I don’t know what to do I’m just so confused 😭

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Wronglane · 09/12/2022 18:29

Please don’t put a baby to sleep on a duvet. It’s extremely dangerous. What if you accidentally threw your side over him in your sleep? Or they rolled?

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:31

Wronglane · 09/12/2022 18:29

Please don’t put a baby to sleep on a duvet. It’s extremely dangerous. What if you accidentally threw your side over him in your sleep? Or they rolled?

I’m not going to do it from now 😭

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dreamerkr · 09/12/2022 18:32

Would it definitely have been because of exhaustion? Or something else? Sorry that I keep asking even though you guys probably wouldn’t know 😭😭

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