I dropped my baby….!!!!

[Beemommy]

Feeling completely awful and can’t take it out of my head… keep googling all kind of horrible staff… please can someone put my mind at ease…
basically I fell asleep with the baby over my tummy…she is 7 weeks old. Next thing I know she is on the floor crying… I picked her up immediately and soothed her and within few seconds she stopped crying. I laid her down and examined all her body and didn’t find any single bruise or scratch. She was smiling and cooing, I fed her and she went back to sleep.

It has been more than 48 hours and she has been ok, a bit cranky but nothing more than average colicky baby…

But now I keep thinking what if… there is some inside injury I couldn’t see… what if it will show up weeks later… what if , what if..

It seemed not necessary to take her to ER that night as she was completely fine but now after spending hours on Google I am terrified…

The moods not changed. At first you didn't mention it was a TILED floor which makes an enormous difference.

Oh and btw a girl I went to school with had a baby who would only sleep on her chest. The baby died because the mum was understandably exhausted and the baby suffocated.

Stop trying to save face and do what's right for your baby.

Your baby is still small, and you are going to come across lots of times when in the UK you might have called 111. Presumably in your current home people go to A&E for these things. Will you be using Google / mumsnet each time? Genuine question - seems like yes based on your responses here

I can see how the mood changed here from ‘she is fine, don’t worry’ to ‘you’re a bad mother, social services are coming for you’… easy to judge when you don’t know the whole situation.

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A&E nurse here. If there was going to be an issue it would have occured by now. Please stop worrying, mums do this all the time. mine rolled off the bed. it happens

Thank you @username8888 … at least someone is being nice here… and logical.

Shit advice

So the question is, why did you both posting then? I've been nothing but nice actually, but sensibly suggested that as it was a tiled floor, and you didn't see how she fell, that it might be a good idea to check her out. But apparently I'm being dramatic and 'not nice'.
I did take time out of my day to explain that my friends baby did fracture their skull in a very similar way, with no symptoms. Also, my FIL fell backwards onto grass and his brain bleed was not discovered until a week later.
But whatever. You do you. Don't bother asking for advice if you don't like what you hear.

My daughter was in nicu for 11 days when she was born and one of the nurses looking after her dropped her on her head (she was 5days old at this point) she had a massive lump on her head but they have her X-rays and check overs and other than the lump she was fine. Babies bones are pretty flexible to allow for coming through the birth camel so she's probably going to be ok. If she's difficult to wake or you have any other concerns take her to a&e. They would much prefer to see a baby who is fine then for you to leave it and things be missed. Big hugs and don't blame yourself, accidents happen xx

We've all done it and it can be next to impossible not to fall asleep. I put a mattress down on the floor in the bedroom and corner of the living room and fed/slept with them on that so they only had a small fall if I fell asleep. You will almost certainly do this again. You struggle now, wait till they can actually roll over themselves 🙄 xx

@InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream
Why shit advice? It's my job so I have a fair idea what happens.
Mum would bring in baby, we would check it over, take observations, pulse, pupil reaction etc. We wouldn't X-ray without good cause and we wouldn't do an MRI scan for the same reason. Good cause would be unconsciousness following the accident, drowsiness, vomiting, neck stiffness, abnormal pupil reaction etc. Baby has none of these.

Then we would advise close observation at home for 48 hours. At a push an overnight stay with observation.

Baby was fine at 48 hours so what's the issue? Any bleed to the brain would be obvious now with drowsiness and vomiting. None of that has happened. So it won't happen this late on. Bleeding in the brain doesn't start 48 hours later.

Stop being horrible to the OP and fuelling her anxiety.
If the baby for any reason exhibited symptoms she'd have taken it straight to a&e.

@username8888 with respect, you're a nurse, not a doctor. Secondly, the baby hasn't had any observations, and OP said she has been cranky. Thirdly, you're wrong about brain bleeds, they can and do present more than two days after head injuries. Fourthly, this baby is only seven WEEKS old, how can you possibly be so confident she's fine?
Finally, if you actually read my posts, I have tried to be supportive and helpful, until being accused of being dramatic and 'not nice'.

A&E nurse or not, mums do not do this all the time. No-one I know has dropped their baby on a hard surface and not sought help (or even the first part, actually)

I am really surprised a nurse would say that because with a head injury to a hard surface surely it may not be visible/obvious? How can anyone on the internet say it would have shown right now?

Honestly OP if it had been carpet I would have stuck with my original assessment but the hard ceramic floor DOES make a difference. If there does turn out to be something, there will be questions on you about why you didn't take her in sooner and that's what I'm concerned about on your behalf as well as your little one.

Exactly this.

Reassuring an anxious mum is fine & reasonable. But this is a mother who doesn't take reasonable precautions + hasn't checked out her baby who fell on a hard surface at 7 weeks.

I find this nearly unbelievable and this 'we've all been there' is hard to imagine. 'We've all been there' in that children have accidents & we worry; but sleeping unsafely, not checking out a baby who had a worrying fall, and using only the Internet for advice on a situation of concern is not something I suspect most of us have 'been there' with.

But a carpet and it will be less worrying if it happens again.

I dropped my eldest years ago when he was around five or six months old. He is nearly 16yo now.

In all seriousness, you have got a fright. We have all been there. Your DD will be absolutely fine 💐

If it would reassure you, phone up NHS24 for advice. They may want her checked out just to be absolutely sure all is well. They will be used to this since she is teeny tiny.

I work with doctors and what I said is what they do. I'm not the one making the decisions to admit or discharge, they are. I'm saying this is what would happen. If an extremely rare event occurs and a week after an injury a bleed spontaneously occurs, are you suggesting a well and healthy baby is kept in hospital for that period 'just in case' a rare occurrence happens? The hospitals would be overflowing with babies! Stop talking rubbish. OP is an experienced mother. She knows when her baby is well and if her baby became unwell, equally she knows what to do. Having observations nearly 3 days later is absurd. You are scaremongering and being over dramatic. The baby is fine. If she wasn't mum would act.

@Itstheimplication @EarringsandLipstick It was nearly 3 days ago! If it was 3 hours I would advise getting baby checked over, of course.

@username8888 I can't help but think you are being deliberately obtuse. Of course I don't mean a brain bleed will spontaneously start 3 days later. I mean, the baby has not even had her pupils or eyes checked following the fall. I'm talking about a slow/minor bleed that doesn't show itself till days later such as in the case of my FIL. I already made it perfectly clear, more than once, that the baby is almost certainly fine, but a check would be a good idea under the circumstances

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You might need to start your own thread. You've posted on one about someone dropping their baby

You are being deliberately obtuse. I'm telling what would have happened if the baby had gone straight to A&E. The pupillary reaction and pulse check would have been done. They are indicators of brain injury. After 2-3 days and the baby is fine then those observations would be normal. You don't do them 3 days later in the absence of other symptoms, which would have shown by now. It would be pointless. I totally agree it would have been a safer option to have had the baby checked immediately but after 48 hours it will show nothing because there is nothing to see. If there was a brain bleed the baby would be unwell. She's not, so what would be the point of observations? If you're saying a brain bleed may be happening but so slowly it's not observable... then the observations would be normal, so the advice would be the same. If you're saying by day 7 the baby would be critically ill then don't you think mum would be aware and go to a&e? You're given a list of symptoms to watch out for and if any occur then you need to return immediately. A tiny bleed at the point of impact would not continue for 7 days anyway unless the baby had a clotting disorder or (in an adult) on blood thinners, and if for any rare reason it did, the mum would be aware of what to look for and take them in.

Drowsiness
Irritability
Not liking the light
Stiff neck
Not feeding
Vomiting
Any behaviour out of the normal.
Concern of the parent.

You are equating your limited experience of an older man and projecting this onto a baby. I'm telling you in a clear logical fashion what would happen. Stop scaremongering.

Paeds nurse here. In my experience, a baby of this age who had fallen onto a hard floor would have been kept in hospital for 24hours of obs just to make sure everything was ok.
In all likelihood, baby is probably fine but I would definitely get them seen and checked over even if it’s to put your own mind at rest. Most doctors would probably question why you didn’t seek help straight away, as the majority of parents would be so freaked out they would have done - delayed presentation. Please ensure you get baby checked.

@username8888

Please stop worrying, mums do this all the time.

This is the part that's worrying about your 'nurse's advice'.

Yes it's been 3 days so a trip to A&E is not of all that much use.

But she should be worrying! That it happened firstly, and that she did not seek appropriate advice, secondly.

Also, mums do not do this all the time. That's the point. Most mums seek advice at the time. In my case, I'd have called my GP, and taken it from there (in Ireland no 111); I'd have gone to A&E if it was out of hours.