I dropped my baby….!!!!

[Beemommy]

Feeling completely awful and can’t take it out of my head… keep googling all kind of horrible staff… please can someone put my mind at ease…
basically I fell asleep with the baby over my tummy…she is 7 weeks old. Next thing I know she is on the floor crying… I picked her up immediately and soothed her and within few seconds she stopped crying. I laid her down and examined all her body and didn’t find any single bruise or scratch. She was smiling and cooing, I fed her and she went back to sleep.

It has been more than 48 hours and she has been ok, a bit cranky but nothing more than average colicky baby…

But now I keep thinking what if… there is some inside injury I couldn’t see… what if it will show up weeks later… what if , what if..

It seemed not necessary to take her to ER that night as she was completely fine but now after spending hours on Google I am terrified…

@EarringsandLipstick they are not trivialising this.. they are moms who have been in similar situations and sharing their experiences…
I believe we all have mom instincts and at that time there have been few important points to say she was fine. she is not my first and I had some share of accidents with my first two and know what to look for.
1 she stopped crying immediately
2 she was awake and alert and smiling right after
3 she fed well and no vomiting after
4 normal sleeping rhythm

My advice would still be get her checked out as she fell onto a tiled floor

How high did they fall? If my dc fell on a ceramic floor, I'd get them checked out.

@pumpkinelvis
i know it sounds completely horrible and if someone told me that it happened to them I would be completely terrified and imagine the worst but at that moment when I picked her up and made sure she was fine it just seemed like a little miracle or being lucky or whatever you want to call it…
its been almost 3 days and she is fine… I am the one who is not 😫😫

Ok, you obviously have decided not to check her. Anyone who has suggested to get her seen has been ignored, or you have listed reasons not to.
A 7 week old who's fallen onto hard flooring needs checking. No one is trying to scare you, but whether she seems fine or not, she needs to be checked. I've known a baby fracture their skull in similar circumstances, and seemed completely fine and was picked up later, which then lead to lots of questions for mum and dad. For the sake of a trip to the ER, I think it's best to be seen. Babies can be very stoic. Your choice at the end of the day, but I really think it would be silly not to go.
It's a complete accident and no one will think badly of you.

I thought you were feeling guilty OP so I was being gentle but you're being really irresponsible If you don't get her checked

I’m a little surprised at your latest post as I thought the reason you were posting was because you were worried. As you said you were googling because you were worried about internal injury but now you’re saying from your experience you know without a doubt she’s fine?
i know you were looking for reassurance but nobody over the internet can tell you she’s fine for sure in the same way that without a proper check you can’t know for sure even if she seems outwardly fine.

the symptoms of concussion in an adult can come on days after an injury for example. I’m not trying to scare you I’m just a bit surprised at your complete change of attitude since your original post! Had she fallen onto carpet I would agree with you but it’s the ceramic floor that’s the issue and the fact you don’t know how she fell, how hard and which way she fell because you didn’t see it happen.

@Itstheimplication
all I was saying is that there is some positive points that make me think she is fine and also my mom instinct tells me she is fine but as you said none of this can define that for sure she is fine and that I have no doubts she is. I definitely do have doubts otherwise I wouldn’t be here…

I was just hoping that maybe someone with medical experience would know what to do and which signs to look for if she is not fine…

anyways… I am taking her for 2 months vaccinations this week so I will have her checked then…

Find it strange that you ask for advice but then ignore everyone who suggests you take her in?

you say you don’t have a 111 equivalent - please don’t think mumsnet can act as one!

sorry you’re feeling rubbish about it all but if you’re going to ask the question why ignore most of the responses?

Nobody can reassure you that your baby’s fine without seeing her OP

A 7 week old baby who has fallen from a bed onto a hard surface should be checked over by a doctor just to make sure.

Plenty of babies fall from the sofa/bed/lap. It’s hitting the hard/tiled floor I’d be worried about. She’s probably fine but best to make sure.

I was carrying my puppy outside. Not the same as a baby I know but still similar. Puppy was 9 weeks old, 4lb & wriggled out my arms from shoulder height. She hit the bbq, then the shelf below it followed by concrete. Yelped when she hit the ground, but running around seconds later. Did her business & went back inside. I was mortified but when we read up on it vets posted it was really common & unless visible signs of injuries or vomiting it was likely not to need treatment. 4 weeks later & there have been no ill effects. Hope your little one continues to do well

First time my dd rolled over on her own, she rolled off the sofa. I heard her crying, looked over and she was face down on the rug. I felt awful for days, she's now a teen with no issues. Except I told her about it the other day and now she keeps telling me that I 'dropped her off the sofa when she was a baby' in a vain attempt to get more scholars/screen time/get out of homework

If you're really worried op, call 111 and take their advice

Unfortunately there is no 111 where I am otherwise would have called straight away for sure…

I also did the baby’s head against the doorframe as I walked through with him. About 3 weeks old. I was so upset with myself. After an initial scream of disgust, he was fine.

I did exactly the same thing. I woke up and no baby ! My heart sank. I looked down and he was fast asleep on his hands and knees on the carpet . As it was a tiled floor I would get baby checked out but sure they will be fine .

Nobody can look at your baby from here and guarantee she is injury free.

A lot of people on this site will have experience of their babies falling onto a carpeted floor or at least a wooden floor - tiled floors in living rooms are not common in the UK and this is a UK site. Therefore, other people's experiences are not unlikely to be directly relevant to you. I was firmly in the 'baby will be fine' camp until you mentioned the ceramic tiles.

It sounds as though your baby is probably just fine, but given the type of surface she fell onto, the responsible thing would be to get her checked out.

I'm a little confused as to why you are worried about internal bleeding on the one hand but won't take your child to be checked on the other - will you need to pay for a trip to the emergency room? Could you book a same-day appointment with your local doctor as an alternative?

Some of the comments were trivialising it, in the spirit of making you feel better, which I understand. (Eg 'babies bounce')

Regardless, a tiny baby falling to a hard surface should have been checked out at the time.

If you've had other children I'm amazed you felt it ok to have your baby on your tummy & fall asleep.

@EarringsandLipstick
i had my first baby sleeping on my chest for the first 3 months of his life as that was the ONLY way he would sleep… did some with my second too… and never ever has something like that happened to me. I would always be alert and feeling the slightest movement… That’s why I was double shocked when the fall happened … I guess you just don’t handle sleep deprivation as well with age…

So when you posted, you were only actually looking for us to salve your conscience, rather than looking for actual advice?
Don't you think it's going to look a bit odd when you take her for her jabs and say, by the way, she fell 3 feet on to a tiled floor a week ago, and I was asleep so I didn't see how she fell, so it could have been straight on to her head for all I know, and I just assumed she was ok.

Just get her checked for god's sake unless you want social services to come knocking at a later date

Agree with above poster. Ridiculous.

i had my first baby sleeping on my chest for the first 3 months of his life as that was the ONLY way he would sleep… did some with my second too… and never ever has something like that happened to me.

I find it hard to imagine this. Safely co-sleeping is one thing. I didn't do it myself but my DSis who has terrible sleepers does.

When you say 'they slept on your chest, what do you mean? What about when you needed to sleep?

It's not safe, of course it's not. Again, sitting down with a baby sleeping in your arms is obviously normal. Ending up falling asleep with no way to keep your tiny baby secure is not ok.

As it has been 3 days and you're happy baby is well, I guess there's nothing more to be done. I cannot imagine any world where I wouldn't get a 7 week baby checked after they had fallen on a hard surface.

Please make better arrangements for how they sleep now.

This.
The nurse giving her vaccines won't be qualified to check her after a fall, and it's going to look awful when they ask why you didn't get her checked at the time.
Just go get her seen fgs. You can't mess about with a 7 week old who fell into hard floor and you have absolutely no idea how she fell or landed.

I can see how the mood changed here from ‘she is fine, don’t worry’ to ‘you’re a bad mother, social services are coming for you’… easy to judge when you don’t know the whole situation.
Where I am doctors give jabs so I will tell him to examine her and tell him what happened just maybe in a less dramatic way, @InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream

Don’t worry, most of us have been there.
I dropped my girl once and she was fine, actually I did it in front of some people lol - I just picked her up again and tried to ignore it as though I’d knocked a apple on the floor in the fruit store and quickly put it back before anyone noticed.

The mood hasn't changed OP. If you read my responses carefully, the mood has stayed exactly the same.