Want to take child out of a school nursery what do I say

[Newtothis2345]

She’s 3yo it’s a school nursery so I don’t know if I can just take her out or not

She's 3, of course you can. You just say 'we're on holiday next week so Ella won't be back in until the 17th' or whatever. Make sure you give them enough notice and don't expect a refund for the days she's not there

Take her out for a holiday? Or permanently?

Either way you can do as you please.

if it’s permanently just be aware of you claim the 30 free hours you won’t be able to use them anywhere else until Christmas now as the funding will have been paid to her school nursery for the first term.

Of course you can, it’s not a prison! If she’s not going anywhere else just write to the head saying that X is if non compulsory school age and you have decided to withdraw them from nursery as you feel it is in his/her best interests, last date will be X.

If DC is going somewhere else just phrase at is a transfer to Y nursery on X date.

Thanks all and yeah permanently she is behaving quite badly there hitting other children etc so I’m thinking to take her out of nursery but start taking her to play dates etc with me so she can get used to being round other children and to play nicely then I’ll send her next term what do you all think ?

Don't expect them to leave a space for her...once she's gone thats it she's off the books....if she had behaviour issues I can't see how disrupting her routine will improve her behavoiur

Are you happy with the nursery? If so, I'd keep her there and work with them on her behaviour. Taking her away from the children isn't going to help, she'll just have less chance to learn how to behave.

Talk to the reception teachers. Ask their advice. Tell them that she isn’t coping well with nursery but she will be starting reception with them soon.

Send her where next term? Have you spoken to the staff about this?

School nurseries are popular if you take her out they may not hold the place for you. You need to discuss this with the nursery and also find out about her behaviour in more detail. Does she do this at home?

I would have thought that it was better for her to learn these social/behaviour skills in nursery than at school in a year personally. I might drop her to 3 days if she is currently full time. But obviously I only know a small snapshot of the situation and you know your daughter best

I think if you take her out there is every possibility that they will fill the space in January.

you absolutely can take her out.
you cannot dip in and out as you feel like it.

They won't keep a space open, if you take her out there is a good chance she won't go back. It's still only a few weeks into the term, she is still settling in so I would give her a little while longer before I made a decision to pull her out. She will be starting school next year so sooner or later she has to get used to school. Have you arranged a meeting with the nursery staff to discuss her behaviour?

I’m thinking rather than her sitting with 20 children everyday I would start of taking her around a couple of children first to get her used to it as she is not and I think that might be part of the behaviour issue she’s a bit overwhelmed

What were your reasons for putting her in?

Have they changed?

I wouldn't take her out because of bad behaviour, no. That's sending her the wrong message entirely. She's 'old enough' to know not to hit others etc. have sanctions at school, have sanctions at home.

What children will she see with you? Won't they be at nurseries and preschools?
I'd keep her in nursery and let her get used to it. How long has she been there? I think you may have to give it a longer chance. If the nursery staff haven't said she should leave, then why take her out? I'm sure they will be happy to help work this through.

I'm a retired Early Years teacher and I agree with this. Work with the school to improve her behaviour. At some point she will be going to school, most likely the same school, anyway. Play dates aren't the same as being in a larger group of children with more choices to make. She needs help making the right choices.

Work with the nursery first op. Ask for their advice.

If you withdraw her now, she could well be fine during well supervised play dates with one other child, then really struggle once she starts school.

It would be much better to face the issue now before she starts compulsory education.

A year isn't 'soon' when you're talking about 3 year olds.

I wouldn't talk to reception teachers, it's the school nursery's job to get them ready for reception & it's a whole year away yet.

@Newtothis2345 why hadn't she been on play dates to play group, other toddler activities?

IGNORE THAT.I QUOTED THE WRONG POST.

I read your other thread. I'm sorry you feel unsupported and judged. I would try to leave it a while longer though. Nursery prepares for Reception, so if she doesn't learn now, it may be harder next year. Do you have people in mind for playdates with? You might find other 3 year olds are in nursery a lot. Plus if she is hitting there, they may be less understanding than school.

However in answer to your question, you can just deregister her. Although they will likely ask why and what your plans are.

I would not guarantee they will hold the place open for you. How are they managing her behaviour are there and SEND concerns?

I'll try again without the quote.

I'm a retired Early Years teacher and I don't think you should take her out of the class. Work with the school to improve her behaviour. At some point she will be going to school, most likely the same school, anyway. Play dates aren't the same as being in a larger group of children with more choices to make. She needs help making the right choices.

Don't talk to the Reception Teacher they won't know your child and have their own class to deal with. Talk to the Nursery Teacher. The Nursery Teacher can talk to the Reception Teacher anyway if they need to.

OP you did at least two threads on those only yesterday. What other responses are you looking for?

Is this type of behaviour common and what do nursery teachers think of this type of behaviour as I feel like I’m being judged for it

If she's funded, you should expect to be invoiced for the time she's had as they won't be paid for her if you pull her out now. Our headcount day is 6th October for this term.