Want to take child out of a school nursery what do I say

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She’s 3yo it’s a school nursery so I don’t know if I can just take her out or not

You need to have a proper meeting with the teacher. Come up with a plan.
Often in nursery it's not literally 20 kids together but they break up into smaller groups for games and activities.
Do you know why she is hitting? It could be lots of reasons. Not yet understanding sharing of the toys. Not knowing how to communicate with the other children or adults.
There will be lots of methods the staff can use to help her - you need to TALK to them.

I’d love everyone’s advice on nursery. I’m not sure weather to pull my daughter out or stick at it. She’s been at nursery 8 months now, and we’re still getting tears every morning, saying she things like ‘I don’t like it’ ‘no play group please’ ‘no mummy please it’s scary’ now I trust her key worker who constantly keeps me updated and answers any questions I have. She has told me that my daughter doesn’t really like to socialise with the other children and is happy playing alone (which there working on) as a the main reason for sending her was to work on her socialisation with children her age. They say as soon as daddy drops her off she settles within a few minuets, they do send updates but not daily. She refuses to talk about her day when we pick her up, she only does 8:30-13:30 three days a week. She comes out at collection happy. It’s just you can see the anxiety and dread in her eyes when you say anything about going to nursery or let’s get ready for nursery. I’m told it could be separation anxiety, but 8 months seems a long time to have this behaviour! She’s has been off for 3 weeks now, two weeks for the Christmas break, then a week where she had a nasty chest infection. Now the nursery has chicken pox and I’m 28 weeks pregnant so worried about sending her, but I appreciate it’s a long time off! Her behaviour seems to have improved since being off, I regards to she seems more confident and happy, but I know that’s not the only thing to consider to keeping her off. She is due to start school in 1.9 years so plenty of time, I just don’t know if it’s right to pull her out now we’ve made 8 months progress, or weather to pull her out and work on her confidence and socialisation skills at home with groups when I’m there? Any advice would be so so helpful as I’m at a loss what’s best to do! I only want best for her either way, but she’s my first and I don’t want to do more harm than good sending her to somewhere she doesn’t like, maybe then resulting in her feeling the same about pre school/ future school. Thank you in advance!

@Hetty222 best to start your own thread so people can see it and respond.

Hetty, take her out till Sept.

I took mine out for a similar reason. He went to playgroup and groups with me and he then went to a different nursery, starting school mid year when he turned 5. He is ND and just didn't understand other little kids. I had support from an emotional health service in the area and they were really good at advising the school etc on how to support him successfully- the school were amazing but not all schools can do this - staffing and experience means that a disruptive little person cannot always be supported appropriately - this is not the fault of the school or the child.