This what I did today

[ItsDefinitelyAutumn]

I wasn't feeling well today. I could feel my throat closing up, headache, etc (not Covid) but I still went for football and then errands with the DH and little ones. DH was continuously on his phone while I seeing to the kids then I thought, you know what? Enoughs enough!

When we got home I told hubby, I'm not feeling well, I'm going to have a nap. All three of them stared at me in confusion. I have never done this before. I had a nap for the first time in 6 years and it was glorious!!!

I could hear hubby actually playing with the kids and he made dinner, washed up and got the kids ready for bath time. Made me realise sometimes you need to be a bit selfish and take care of yourself first and that the other halves are more than capable.

It really is about just biting the bullet isn’t it? I’ve been wanting a really hot bath for ages, it’s like a weird craving because when you’re pregnant baths have to be warm hot hot and I’m one of those like to scald my skin a bit type bathers, but my DD is now 7 months and I’ve still not said right I’m going for a bath, I always find I’ve got nap time to do or housework, or just always have my boobs on tap.
one day 😂
well done for taking time for yourself xx

I totally understand. Some people might think well what’s the big deal, go for a nap and leave the other half to it but for those of us in the same boat ‘if you know you know’.

Removing myself from the picture is sometimes the only way to actually get OH to buckle up and be alert, I’m the default parent for everything and it drains the f*ck out of me. I could be crumbling inside but nobody would notice.

@AKT22 You so deserve that bath! Go on, do it and enjoy! 😃

@SaharaSahara You last sentence! 🥹 Yes, it's so draining. Hope you get to switch off and recharge too! 🥰

Default parent - yep that’s the perfect way to describe it