Is it wrong to dress baby in pink /blue based on their gender?

[gratefulmamatobe]

I have a little girl due soon and I have bought everything in pink. Clothes, nursery decor, teddies etc.

A week ago, a friend commented saying I should be more gender neutral...

Keen to know thoughts on this?

(Obviously as she grows up, I will greatly encourage her to find the style/ colours that she loves)

People will always comment - you do you 🤷🏼‍♀️

This will happen with pretty much every parenting decision you make, good luck 😂

Its fine if thats what your happy with.

I bought pink clothes but kept the nursery neutral so the nursery could be used for all future children. When they are ready to move out of nursery I will decorate another bedroom according to what they are into at the time.

I think as long as you'd be happy to re-use it all again if you had a boy then it's fine! If you've specifically limited your daughter's options to stereotypically feminine ones before she's even born, then I think that's a shame. But it's not my baby, so..🤷🏻‍♀️

By the time your DD is 2 she'll probably have her own opinions on what she wants - mine wants a dress every day because they're swishy make the most of being able to choose what you want while you can!

Well, your daughter won't gaf. It might as well be something you like. My dd was clothed fairly gender-neutrally but as soon as she could talk, demanded pink anyway <shrug>

@Nothingbuttheglory that's exactly what I thought.... I could dress her in beige and she could grow up to hate beige 🤣🤣🤣

Thanks for the input. Really helpful xx

Not wrong at all. Enjoy dressing your baby in things you like. It’s no one else’s business until your child is old enough to express her own opinion.

Just do whatever suits you. 🤷‍♀️

Personally I hate all the “boys blue, girls pink” thing and all my DS clothes are neutral colours without any cheesy slogans on them - beige, black, white, dark blues and greens, all shades of gray etc.

@ClocksGoingBackwards Thanks so much for this. Yes I agree. I look forward to seeing her discover what she loves... but whilst she's a baby, I shall just buy the things I love and focus on what really matters providing a warm, safe, fed environment xx

Your baby, if you want pink go for it. I don’t think it’s anyone’s business x

Of course it's not 'wrong'! It's been pretty traditional for a long while now. Ignore 'friend'. She should keep her opinion to herself. I bet it looks really pretty. It's not as if you're forcing pink on a goth teen but I'm wearing pink today and I'm old!

@TheOceanClub yes, great point! It's personal preference isn't it? And the baby doesn't know or care about anything other than being warm, safe, cuddled and fed.

Thanks for the reply xx

You are buying the clothes, choose what you want. Personally head-to-toe pink all day every day would be a bit much for me (as would any other colour, I have no issue with pink itself). But you do what makes you happy, it is your baby.

@AssignedSlytherinAtBirth

Haha this made me giggle. Thanks so much for the reassurance.. I suddenly felt hugely guilty but you're right- I would NEVER try and suppress her own style when she's older.. I guess all a baby cares about is being safe, warm, cuddled and fed x

Dress your kids the way you want.

No of course not. My 5 year old DD is very opinionated and loves pink, glitter, bling etc. I am not glittery or blingy at all and she was rarely put in those sort of clothes before she chose what she wanted to wear. Basically it makes no difference what you put them in, once they get to a particular age it will be their way or the highway so you do whatever you want to.

You aren't buying pink because of her gender because she doesn't have a gender and likely never will.
You are buying pink things because of her sex and because you have been brainwashed into thinking girls equal pink and boys equal blue.
So if I knew you I'd think you susceptible to marketing and a bit unimaginative and sexist but you know "You Do You" 😁

There are so many lovely clothes for babies that it seems a shame to just buy pink ones.

🥱 😴

Dress her how you want whilst you have the chance, she’ll have an opinion quicker than you think!

One thing I will say though is that when babies are crawling and learning to walk dresses are really impractical and get caught up in their legs so maybe bear that in mind when she’s that age.

Once they’re confident walkers/ climbers etc then dresses become less of an issue. My 2yo DD has worn a dress every day for the last 2 months! (She picks her clothes out each morning now)

🤣🤣🤣 nah I just love pink, you could always get T-shirts printed with "born a girl but mum can't decide my gender as I want to decide".... sure that would clear up any confusion 🙄

I dressed my first girl in pink for ages when she was born as I was so pleased to have a girl (despite my first child being a stillborn boy)

Go pink 👍

Put her in pink -OMG why are you dressing her in pink!

Put her in blue- OMG she’s a girl why is she in blue

Gender neutral- again. She’s a girl!

You seriously can’t win

Your child, your choice.

I’ll be the wanker-it’s sex not gender

Not wrong, I find it a bit odd though.
Why not have a mix of colours?

Absolutely choose the colours you like . No one else's business