How often do you get hurt by your DC?

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Just that really. I don't have the energy right now but will write more later once I've had some responses

In what way please?

Emotionally or physically?

Loads. They are 6 and 3 and love using me as a climbing frame so lots of knocks, bruises etc. My eldest is also very bony so even cuddles often lead to elbows in my thighs, an accidental knock to the face etc.

Intentionally hurt by them though? No. Just lots of accidental

My DD is nearly 8 months and she scratches me/ smacks me/ bites my nipples every day.

Physically and internationally? Never.

Emotionally - there's been a few notable instances.

Intentionally not at all. But my DC is a toddler, I get bruised, scratched, pushed, called names or other things occasionally but it’s accidentally and she doesn’t mean any harm. If it were ever on purpose as she gets older I would put a stop to it pretty quickly.

Never now they are all older 15, 13 and 8 but when they were all toddlers their flailing limbs and the toys attached to them were a liability and as babies their tiny wolverine claws meant someone was always sporting a scratch.

Random little things, all the time. My ds was climbing on me and stood on my foot pulling the skin - that hurt. And my DD was playing with a hair bobble and it pinged in my face by accident. But proper, serious hurting or intentionally being violent? Never.

Intentionally?! No. Accidentally rough when playing? All the time.

@NanaNelly physically and violently. But I'm interested in all responses

Daily but it isn't in malice, DS is autistic and cannot regulate his emotions.

My 6 year old has hit me and thrown things at me before when in a temper.

I was never hurt by DS1, not even by accident. He's 14 now and still the gentlest of boys, despite having hands and feet that are temporarily (I hope!) too big for his frame😄

DS2, on the other hand, now 10, has always been a bull in a china shop and doesn't know his own strength. He will grab me enthusiastically by the arm and has a grip like metal. He leaps onto my knee and it really hurts, even though he's quite small. He goes in for a hug and grabs me like a small grizzly bear. I've had many a scrape and bruise from him. Nothing major, but memorably painful. He's a rocket😬

Every day several times a day, but one is autistic and the other is awaiting assesment for possible adhd/dyspraxia. I have constant small bruises and my back is all messed up from them jumping on me from odd angles and stuff. They’re 5 and 7.

Nearly 3yr old DD1 is in a hitting phase, and when she loses control she can do some damage, but she's getting much, much better.

Baby DD2 bites my nipples constantly, smacks and pulls hair - she hurts me much more than the toddler.

Never intentionally. Lots of small accidental things.

I think if your (nt) child is deliberately hurting you, you need some support.

Sometimes if my son is in a meltdown I get hurt. It is not deliberate or malicious. At home I try to just leave him where he is but if we are out or he’s in an unsafe place sometimes I have to move him, and then occasionally I get hurt. He’s getting better as he gets older though.

My NT children, never. Maybe when they were toddlers by mistake but not now.

Never intentionally.

My eldest - never physically, she's a teenager now and emotionally my feelings are hurt by her selfishness, but not regularly, just usual teenage self centredness

My youngest, regularly, both ways - she has behavioural issues as she's adopted so it's par for the course I'm afraid

Physically less now they are on medication but it was at least once a week.

Emotionally multiple times a day

They have SN and MH problems. Aged 14 and 15.

Accidentally - a few times a day by my autistic nine year old.
Intentionally - never.

(Although sometimes during a cuddle she will pinch or squeeze hard and ask "does THIS hurt? In attempt to learn how hard she can squeeze without hurting me.)

At one point it was 21 days out of 31. Now (4 years later, aged almost 14) it's hardly ever, but we have a lot of holes in walls and doors ☹️ I think the last time was a year ago - it's the last one I have a fixed memory of. But he has been physically aggressive to staff and students at his special school much more recently so it's obviously still there, which is worrying.

Hugs to you if you're going through this. I'm sure someone will suggest looking up Yvonne Newbold; also Al Coates.

Never. 14 year old, 8 year old and 1 and a half year old. They have never hurt my on purpose or lashed out in anger.

My dc are 15 and 16 now and have never hurt me maliciously or in temper.

My exh had a dc, he had videos on his phone when his ds was younger (2/3) of him hitting him in temper and finding it funny. Whilst we were together and his son was older he carried on and I found it really offputting tbh. His ds would pinch him or punch exh leg when driving if ex said no about something and ex would laugh about it sometimes of shout at others. His parenting was a huge reason of why we split up.

DD (5) is quite clumsy, she'll often stand on me / drop something on me / run into me / knock me with something she's waving around.

But intentionally? Never.

What sort of situation are you talking about? Anger/frustration and trying to hurt you? Or lashing out indiscriminately regardless of you being near and you're caught in the cross fire?