DD is nearly 3, very social, attends nursery 3 days a week and they’ve not raised any concerns even when directly asked. HV don’t get involved in our area as she is passed 1 can’t get a GP appointment so posting here to see if anyone thinks these are red flag for autism and if I should push harder or if this is neurotypical toddler behaviour.
so as I was saying nearly 3, no concerns from nursery, good talker average/ slightly advanced in her talking, does imaginative play, responds to name and maintains eye contact, will smile if smiled at and in general is very social.
but she does a few things that I’m not sure if they are ‘normal’
- still puts a lot of things in her mouth.
- likes food plain
- flaps her hands occasionally (but does no other stimming behaviour)
- can hold her wee In for hours
- reluctant in terms of potty training
- she’ll be ok getting messy but then sometimes gets quite upset her hands or clothes are messy
- shes really particular about her clothes and refuses to wear certain things
- she sometimes has to be reminded to drink or eat, it’s like she forgets
tbh it’s the mouthing things that I’m wondering about, although it’s worth noting when she was 2 I had another baby and she totally regressed them, ie wanting to be more of a baby. Things never really went in her mouth before then, she never had a dummy and then we’d find her taking the baby’s dummy’s and begging to drink out of a baby bottle. Seems she’s not 100% got over it.
are any of the above red flags that I should look into more. She doesn’t really fit too much of the nhs website definition but I know boys and girls present differently and girls can be harder to diagnose