Ill start by saying we have a tiny house and noise travels; you can hear our baby(11m)&toddler(2y) crying wherever you are.
Our second born is dramatic, loud and whiney and always has been.
He still wakes up 7 times per night.
As soon as you drop off to sleep he is screaming waking you up again.
Ive had an absolute fuck full now.
11 months of constant 7 times every single night waking up and screaming. He still demands a bottle in the night between 12-2. Doesn’t matter how much milk he gets in the day doesn’t matter how much food he gets in the day. Doesn’t matter how much or little nap time he gets in the day.
every.night.is.the.same.shit
Our 2yo was similar but we paid a sleep consultant and they were our saving Grace and taught us A LOT. We’ve tried everything they advised this time around and nothing is working.
We can’t escape. Even sleeping in another room you’re awoken by his screams.
We’ve been to the doctors about every possible problem multiple times over the (almost) last year. Im just wishing the time away until he’s moved out. We both regret having another. We haven’t woken up naturally (either of us) once since he was born. It’s ALWAYS screamed up in some emergency sounding panic but in reality he wants his dummy or something.
My senses can’t take any more of this torture.
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Secondchildregret · 05/08/2022 22:03
Secondchildregret · 06/08/2022 06:13
Sorry - I realised I’d spent an hour of precious sleep time on my phone so went to sleep.
Few things from the extra reply’s (thank you I really do appreciate it):
We looked into cranial osteopath when small (yes he was EMCS and came out screaming, the consultants said it was unusual and gave us an extra check the next day because of it) but I didn’t want to risk it after reading some outcomes.
It’s not a case of ‘giving in’ when he wakes for milk he won’t go down without it, no amount of cuddles/rocking/shhing/leaving/patting etc will do. The cries will get louder and louder until vomit and of milk.
He does vomit a lot, if our eldest has a bug or something and need both our attention for a few minutes and baby starts crying he will almost always work himself up to vomit within a minute or two. He was investigated for sandifer syndrome because of involuntary spasms he was having but they abruptly stopped one day (also checked out IS).
Neither me or DH have been assessed for autism but people have mentioned it to us over the years (separately) that it might be worth checking out, never did see the point because we don’t have an difficulties getting through life (until this?).
We tried everything related to reflux when he was small and none of it improved - tried the wedge under the cot mattress, we started on gaviscon which then turned into omeprazole when it didn’t change symptoms, tried different milks, lactase drops, pro biotics, coleif, gripe water on and on - like I said he also showed signs of sandifer syndrome but that abruptly stopped. He didn’t take to solids well and after 3 months of choking and gagging even at purées the GP referred us to SALT but he time our spot rolled around he was swallowing better so they just told us it’s probably resolved itself.
maybe someone nailed it with - he’s just crap and being a baby..
What does a night nanny do?
If we’re in the house we will hear it, it’s minute and the walls as thin.
Secondchildregret · 06/08/2022 14:13
Yeah - I mean - my child doesn’t know how to do grumpy unfortunately. He’s whined and cried all day today. We had an hour after his nap where he was happy and clapping about but aside from that it’s whine/cry constantly. He’s had pain relief.
im just flat regretting our choice at this point
AliceW89 · 06/08/2022 14:22
Oh OP I really, really feel for you. I posted a thread when DS was 11 months (under a different name) because I literally couldn’t cope with the crying and whinging anymore, on top of sleep deprivation. The crying and whinging was worse. I could have dealt with the sleep deprivation if I had had a ‘happy baby’. I so hope for you it’s all frustration and general annoyance with the world like it was with my DS. He didn’t crawl so it took a long time, but it was like he’d had a personality transplant at about 14 months, when he walked and understood what we were saying. Within a month he became such a delightful child. Of course, he always was a delight, but fuck me highly strung, none sleeping babies are hard work. Keeping everything crossed for you x
Secondchildregret · 06/08/2022 14:13
Yeah - I mean - my child doesn’t know how to do grumpy unfortunately. He’s whined and cried all day today. We had an hour after his nap where he was happy and clapping about but aside from that it’s whine/cry constantly. He’s had pain relief.
im just flat regretting our choice at this point
AliceW89 · 06/08/2022 14:22
Oh OP I really, really feel for you. I posted a thread when DS was 11 months (under a different name) because I literally couldn’t cope with the crying and whinging anymore, on top of sleep deprivation. The crying and whinging was worse. I could have dealt with the sleep deprivation if I had had a ‘happy baby’. I so hope for you it’s all frustration and general annoyance with the world like it was with my DS. He didn’t crawl so it took a long time, but it was like he’d had a personality transplant at about 14 months, when he walked and understood what we were saying. Within a month he became such a delightful child. Of course, he always was a delight, but fuck me highly strung, none sleeping babies are hard work. Keeping everything crossed for you x
Secondchildregret · 06/08/2022 14:13
Yeah - I mean - my child doesn’t know how to do grumpy unfortunately. He’s whined and cried all day today. We had an hour after his nap where he was happy and clapping about but aside from that it’s whine/cry constantly. He’s had pain relief.
im just flat regretting our choice at this point
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