Ill start by saying we have a tiny house and noise travels; you can hear our baby(11m)&toddler(2y) crying wherever you are.
Our second born is dramatic, loud and whiney and always has been.
He still wakes up 7 times per night.
As soon as you drop off to sleep he is screaming waking you up again.
Ive had an absolute fuck full now.
11 months of constant 7 times every single night waking up and screaming. He still demands a bottle in the night between 12-2. Doesn’t matter how much milk he gets in the day doesn’t matter how much food he gets in the day. Doesn’t matter how much or little nap time he gets in the day.
every.night.is.the.same.shit
Our 2yo was similar but we paid a sleep consultant and they were our saving Grace and taught us A LOT. We’ve tried everything they advised this time around and nothing is working.
We can’t escape. Even sleeping in another room you’re awoken by his screams.
We’ve been to the doctors about every possible problem multiple times over the (almost) last year. Im just wishing the time away until he’s moved out. We both regret having another. We haven’t woken up naturally (either of us) once since he was born. It’s ALWAYS screamed up in some emergency sounding panic but in reality he wants his dummy or something.
My senses can’t take any more of this torture.
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Where am I going so incredibly wrong?
Secondchildregret · 05/08/2022 22:03
Namechangetime89 · 05/08/2022 23:09
@strandedabroad that sounds different to what you put above about letting them cry so much they vomit but still don’t pick them up or comfort them?
MolliciousIntent · 05/08/2022 23:11
@Namechangetime89 so what are you suggesting OP does to fix it? She can't keep on like this, waking 7 times a night - sleep deprivation is a torture technique for a reason!
balzamico · 05/08/2022 23:06
Just a thought but maybe you are waking him if he hates being touched etc? Maybe try putting toddler in with you and him in a room on his own with a monitor obvs) so it's totally quiet.
It may not help but you've nothing to lose
Namechangetime89 · 05/08/2022 23:18
@MolliciousIntent The long list of things I suggested in my first reply… I also have a 13 month old waking up a lot and a three year old so I get it
MolliciousIntent · 05/08/2022 23:23
None of your list actually fixes the problem though, does it? The child is still waking screaming 7 times a night. And from OP's post they're doing most of it already and it isn't helping.
Namechangetime89 · 05/08/2022 23:18
@MolliciousIntent The long list of things I suggested in my first reply… I also have a 13 month old waking up a lot and a three year old so I get it
BishFish · 05/08/2022 23:29
One of my DC was like this. Nothing worked for her that worked for the others. She didn’t sleep through until she was 3, and then still had disrupted sleep and nightmares.
We didn’t have any developmental concerns at the time, she met all her milestones and was bright, if a bit sensitive. However she developed severe anxiety at primary school, and was diagnosed with autism at 9.
Please don’t leave your DS to cry alone - if there turns out to be an underlying reason for this then you might find it hard to forgive yourself.
Is his dummy pinned on with a dummy clip? At some point he should be able to locate it himself if he wakes looking for it
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MolliciousIntent · 05/08/2022 22:27
I'm fully prepared to be told I'm a monster, but if I were you I'd send your partner and your older kid away for a few days, prepare to sleep on your sofa, put the baby in the cot, shut the door and not go back in til morning.
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