Anyone NOT sleep train?

[Erella9]

Sat here cuddling my 7mo baby just thinking about his sleep

sometimes he wakes for 1 bottle only, sometimes he wakes for settling (not as much now he’s in his own room?)

but I’ve never ‘sleep trained’ and I don’t know if I intend to. I feel like baby sleep is complex - tbh adult sleep is!

teething happens , changes to routine, bugs etc. I’m just trying to go with the flow. Maybe it’s easy for me as I do have a good support system so DS is an only child so far and when he had a week teething and was up every half hour, my mum babysat him the weekend and let me sleep.

But did anyone else not sleep train? Or am I a shitty mum for not so far!

@Skinnermarink we put DS to bed in his cot for the evening and then when he wakes around 11pm or his first wake up I bring him into bed with us and we cosleep now he is 1. Have been doing so since around 7 months but that was in the next to me.

No, I think most people don't. Babies just eventually sleep through, some sooner than others.

@OnceAgainWithFeeling this is us hahaha

My DD is 3 and I still attend to her at night as/ when required. When she was newborn she would not wake up at all at night for the feed and I was unable to
wake her up either so I thought ( and told
friends & fam LOL) ' ok, we're getting into a a nice routine.'

At 2 weeks colic started then teething + eczema/ allergies ( probs mix of both and endless visits at the doctors to try yet another cream), growths spurts, wet nappies discomfort, colds, too much sleep during the day, hanger, thirst, too cold/ hot at night...you name it. To think that I could leave my baby to cry herself to sleep when all she wants is to feel secure is beyond my comprehension.

I actually called environmental nurse ( lady over 50 yo who had 6 kids
herself) quite a few times asking why my DD is not sleeping etc. and once she told me: 'I had 6 kids and each of them had different sleep patterns, there is no rule.
What you can do is try not to let DD to fall asleep on the boob/ stroke her to sleep etc. but be next to her so she feels
secure. Do not leave her to cry herself to sleep'. I never wondered ever again after that conversation.

DD is very confident, happy and sensitive lil human being

my DS is 20 months. Frequent waker since birth but he’s breastfed so we went down the co-sleeping route. The frequent waking shows no sign of abating but I feel we’ve left it too late to sleep train and don’t have the stomach / energy for it, so we’ll keep muddling along and hope his sleep improves one day