Sat here cuddling my 7mo baby just thinking about his sleep
sometimes he wakes for 1 bottle only, sometimes he wakes for settling (not as much now he’s in his own room?)
but I’ve never ‘sleep trained’ and I don’t know if I intend to. I feel like baby sleep is complex - tbh adult sleep is!
teething happens , changes to routine, bugs etc. I’m just trying to go with the flow. Maybe it’s easy for me as I do have a good support system so DS is an only child so far and when he had a week teething and was up every half hour, my mum babysat him the weekend and let me sleep.
But did anyone else not sleep train? Or am I a shitty mum for not so far!
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Anyone NOT sleep train?
Erella9 · 14/07/2022 23:39
shouldbesleepingnotscrolling · 14/07/2022 23:48
I didnt sleep train either of mine. Yes they take a bit longer to settle into a routine but they naturally find it and both had their regular nap times and bedtimes without the periods of crying.
I feel like people are in such a rush to push babies and toddlers into a routine to fit in with life, yes it can be tiring for us and you feel like it will never happen sometimes but personally I think its sad to ‘train’ their instincts out of wanting parents to reassure them when it will naturally happen when they are ready.
Not a popular opinion on here but thats my thoughts!
Veebees26 · 16/07/2022 14:33
The comments suggesting sleep training is cruel and neglectful are just ridiculous, if you don't want to do it then that's fine, it's not a matter of life and death so you do you BUT at least do some proper research into it and done at an appropriate age in a planned manner is fine, look into why HISTORICALLY it had been found to be neglectful and damaging but in very different circumstances from what a present and loving parent would be doing.
Personally I find it cruel and neglectful to co-sleep when it is so fucking dangerous, people who do it KNOW they are increasing their babys risk of death but do it anyway for their convenience, but it's socially acceptable for some reason.
Veebees26 · 16/07/2022 14:33
The comments suggesting sleep training is cruel and neglectful are just ridiculous, if you don't want to do it then that's fine, it's not a matter of life and death so you do you BUT at least do some proper research into it and done at an appropriate age in a planned manner is fine, look into why HISTORICALLY it had been found to be neglectful and damaging but in very different circumstances from what a present and loving parent would be doing.
Personally I find it cruel and neglectful to co-sleep when it is so fucking dangerous, people who do it KNOW they are increasing their babys risk of death but do it anyway for their convenience, but it's socially acceptable for some reason.
Skinnermarink · 16/07/2022 20:26
With toddlers I think some take the cot sides down far too early. No need and they’re generally up until they’re about 3.5 in other countries.
Skinnermarink · 16/07/2022 20:26
With toddlers I think some take the cot sides down far too early. No need and they’re generally up until they’re about 3.5 in other countries.
BuffaloCauliflower · 17/07/2022 09:45
Oh just don’t have a cot, they’re not necessary. DS went from sharing my bed (with a side car cot for extra space but he didn’t spend much time in there) to a floor bed in his own room at 18m. Never slept in a 4 sided cot alone in his life.
Skinnermarink · 16/07/2022 20:26
With toddlers I think some take the cot sides down far too early. No need and they’re generally up until they’re about 3.5 in other countries.
Skinnermarink · 17/07/2022 11:05
I would definitely have a cot! I don’t co sleep as it just doesn’t work for us. DS had a next to me thing then own cot/room at six months.
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ihavenocats · 17/07/2022 11:53
It's not sleep training, the baby doesn't learn to sleep alone, they just learn no one's coming for them.
Skinnermarink · 17/07/2022 11:42
Those who co sleep past 6 months or so- or when they can roll and move about, what do you do with your evenings? Do you go to bed when the baby goes to bed? Have a side up on your bed? DS being able to go into his own room and having our evenings back was wonderful, I couldn’t imagine going to bed with him at 7:30 for evermore. In fact 3/5 days a week I can’t as I’m at work until 8.
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