Newborn cried for 8 hours nonstop

[Tiredmamaa]

FTM to a one month old. Last night was peak crying. Me and DH tried everything. She eventually tired herself out after another feed.
I'm really struggling. I wanted a baby so much, and I knew babies weren't easy and people may flame me for this but I didn't know they were this hard.
I've been to GP, midwives, health visitor who all confirm she's healthy and the fussiness and crying is something she will grow out of.
Shes a very hungry and gassy baby - I formula feed.

What am I supposed to do in the meantime. With DH back st work I feel so lonely in the daytimes and my experience of motherhood is just tiring and stressful. It pains me to see her cry and that I can't calm her. Everything people suggest I've tried. I'm on empty now, feel like a failure and just broken.

First month is easily the worst point as they're distressed, can't communicate and can give nothing back. Mine started to smile at 7w which made such a difference - was a sign I was actually doing something right!

I’m not surprised you’re exhausted my almost two year old cried for 2 hours last night and that was bad enough.
Have you tried infacol/gripe water for the wind so it’s easier to bring the wind up?
Does she suffer from cows milk protein allergy or silent reflux? Unfortunately there must be something if she cries that long without sleeping.
have you compared the poo nappies to the photos on Google to see what’s normal?
If it’s non stop crying and you can’t comfort her it maybe worth getting an out of hours appointment or going to a&e. They are less likely to fob you off than the GP and more likely to try a special formula

Here are some ideas:
A Dummy, into the car and drive around, pram walks, bouncer? White noise? Rock and sing nursery rhymes, black and white sensory tv on you tube, a sling?

Looking after a newborn is so hard. I think I cried as much as the baby! What saved me was a kind health visitor and going out everyday. I would pop her in the buggy or a sling and walk somewhere every day. Anywhere. Even if she was crying. I also tried to see friends and family a lot. Even though it’s not popular on here - I also started Gina Ford routine which really helped me understand what my baby was crying for at a particular time. It WILL get better! Keep going x

I use infacol every other feed and cooled boiled water occasionally, not much only max 40-60ml over a day. She struggles to poo so GP gave us lactulose I think it's spelt but the tiniest dose.
Shes extremely hungry and always wanting to feed but is very windy so keep her upright after a feed, burn her during feed and after.
Now she's getting upset during feeding.

Gosh that's a lot of crying I take it allergies etc have been ruled out?

Have you had a look at www.cry-sis.org.uk/?

She also doesn't sleep much in the day unless I'm out walking with her. She doesn't sleep after a feed in daytime so the whole sleep when baby sleeps is impossible

Tried all of these :(

Has the GP definitely ruled everything out? Silent reflux? Cows milk protein allergy can only be diagnosed through eliminating it from their diet I thought? 8 hours is an awful lot of crying. I think I would have gone to A&E at that point. Was there no breaks for sleeping? If you feel they are fobbing you off could you create a diary to show exactly how much she is crying?

My first cried a lot and it was horrible. Nowhere near 8 hours though.

Have you tried her on a different formula?

Have you looked into CMPA?

Your not a failure at all, your doing a great job it’s the sleep deprivation that makes everything 10x worse.

my baby is 5 months and she was the same, the first 6-10 weeks I really struggled, but you are doing everything you can for your little one, they are still adjusting and finding their feet.

i found the cooled boiled water helped and massaging her back helped.

She sounds over tired

Will she sleep if she lies on you?

Stupid q but are you picking up the baby when it cries?

Normally she does but she's so worked up she just cries on me kicking her legs

Yes every time

I was always told to put my dd in water if she cried, or to take her outside. Will those work? Dd had reflux as well so may be worth checking with the gp

At eight hours solid crying I would be pushing HV/GP for more help. The only newborns I've known cry that much have had allergies or other health issues. You say she's a hungry baby - are you feeding on demand?

Have you tried colief drops? They were a game changer for one of my colicky babies.

Allergic to the formula you are using

Sounds like silent reflux. I’d be at the doctors insisting they investigate further. 8 hours non stop crying is not usual.

youve checked tongue tie right??? The nhs are so so bad at getting that right.

Search for a local lactation consultant

What bottles are you using and has she been checked for tongue tie?

Hey OP, my first baby was like this, she cried almost all day long for weeks. Doctor just kept insisting it was colic, but I wouldn’t accept that and in the end it was silent reflux.

My fifth baby was also like this, he was so miserable for the first 8 weeks. Paediatrician thought he had CMPA and also silent reflux so started him on thicker baby milk and ranitidine. Didn’t help and one day I just got annoyed, ditched all the meds etc and switched to hipp organic baby milk. He was like a new baby in 48 hours and started smiling a few more days after that.

Infacol can actually make wind worse for some babies, I’d be inclined to drop it and try gripe water instead. I would also go back to doctor and ask for a paediatrician referral, there is something going on making your baby so upset. My first born would only take a few gulps from a feed before fussing and crying. So we were stuck in a cycle of her being really hungry but too uncomfortable to eat. When she started on infant gaviscon and thicker milk, again she was like a different baby within days.

No haven't checked tongue tie!
I've text my HV and will take her back to the GP.
The formula we are using is aptamil.
Using tommee tippee and MAM.
Tried Dr brown but she struggled with the teats.