What time does your child go to bed?

[Mysteriousmoon]

And how old?

Struggling hugely with bedtime just now.

3 and 4 year olds go to bed at 7

Okay, so likely the physical and mental stimulation side of things is ticked at nursed. So what time do you get him up in the morning and when does he nap at nursery? A lone symptom of going to bed late is highly unlikely to indicate neurodiversity, unless you have other concerns of course.

Naps 12-2 usually, wakes around 630-7, as a generalisation.

It is destroying me 😑

5 year old usually goes to bed between 7:30 and 8:30, depends on the evening. She's never had particularly high sleep needs so even 10 hours is ok for her.

15 months and sleeping between 8.30-9pm

My almost 2 year old goes to bed between 8:30 and 9 usually.

Ds 4 in June has had a bedtime that's meant to be 6.15 but it's been more and more problematic and I've realised we only brought it that early because he was knackered from waking early. Wakes pretty consistently at 7am now so think it's time to move it back to 7pm ish as it's been a bit of a mare at bedtime for the last week!

My child will be 4 in the summer and goes to bed at 7pm

Dependant on age is how much they need.

They need less as they get older.

Figure out what time they have to be up, go back from that, that's bed time.

Newborn 0-3 months old 14-17 hours

Infant 4-11 months old 12-15 hours

Toddler 1-2 years old 11-14 hours

Preschool 3-5 years old 10-13 hours

School-age 6-13 years old 9-11 hours

So someone of school age between 6 and 13 that had to be up at 8 am to get ready and catch bus or be dropped at child minder etc would need 9-11 hours, so say 10hours. 8am minus 10hours, 10pm.

17 month old is 1-2 toddler, needs 11-14 hours.
If you're up at 8, that's bedtime as late as 9pm.

2yo (25 months) 'asks' to go up at about 6.30/6.40 most nights and is asleep by 7 at the latest, wakes at 7/7.30. The 11 month old goes up at the same time and sleeps 'til 7am.

So, average sleep at this age is 11-14 hours of which 10-11 can be expected overnight. Say yours needs 12h total, with a 2 hour nap a 9pm bedtime may well be appropriate.

However, my other question would be…you say your DC is still up? What do you mean by this? Are they wide awake in their cot hours after you’ve done the bedtime routine, or have you not tried to do the bedtime routine yet and they are still playing away out of their bedroom?

Almost 2 year old’s bedtime is 8pm. Up at 6-6:30am (10 hours overnight) plus 1-2 hour naps during the day which usually give her between 11-12 hours sleep.

6 nearly 7 month old goes to bed any time between 7 and 8 pm and typically sleeps in to at least 7 am. However, this only happened when we moved him into his own room at 6 months. Prior to that we were doing a dream feed half an hour before we went to bed so 10.30-11 and he would sleep until 7 am. Didn't want to stop doing the dream feed because it was working but tried one night and he slept through! I think starting on solids has also helped though.

What time does he normally drops off at night?

4.5yo, start getting ready for bed around 7 and in bed by 7.30/45 and usually asleep by 8.

Tried to do bedtime routine, failed miserably, ended up in tears and having to step away from it.

What is his routine? Does he still nap? Mine didn’t go to bed at 7/7.30 until they dropped their naps. Before this it would be 9/9.30.

If he is napping is he getting enough sleep overall? The NHS website has a page on how much sleep children of different ages need.

He’s still awake now @ldontWanna , I’m seriously nearly ready to scream.

What's he doing? Why not just put him in the cot and walk away?

ds10 around 9.30. Dd 16 months 7pm. However ds was an awful sleeper as a baby/toddler. Dd is just a great sleeper so I think all kids are different. Ds dropped his nap around 18 months and would be up till 10 pm if he had so much as 20 mins sleep in the car 😣. If you drop the nap to 1 hour, does that help? I know we are always told good naps equal good sleep but there does come a time when it knocks things out if they nap too long (depending on the child). Fwiw, ds is NT, just crap at sleep and still a night owl 😞 like his dad.

6.30. from age 18months to 5yo. 7 from 5. He's now 6. My 3yo also goes at 6.30.

I found my toddler getting later and later, getting harder to put to bed, more wake ups, up for the day earlier. I found when we put him to bed earlier he slept better and for longer. Seems counter intuitive but I was at my wit's end! So glad I tried it.

They're in nursery and we don't get home until 5.30/6pm so it's a bit of squish to get everything in before bedtime but we don't bath them every night and they eat a quick dinner of left overs, porridge, beans on toast etc. It's worth it for better sleep.

Just gets more and more worked up if you walk away. I have considered CIO as nothing else works but when I’ve tried it it’s been horrendous for everyone and still hasn’t worked.

Okay. Here is the problem then. He’s 17 months old and if there is one thing 1.5 year olds like to do it’s test boundaries. Some unicorns will put down their toys and trot off to the bathroom and then the bedroom when they are told it’s bedtime. But most really need to be to forced encouraged to go to bed. DS is generally a really easy going 2 year old, but will definitely have a strop when we say it’s time to go upstairs. It’s so heavily drilled into him though that he quickly gets over it - generally toddlers can’t resist a routine. Your bedtime routine sounds broken if it causing you to be in tears - what’s going on?

Is he actually tired? If he's sleeping 2hrs in the day and 10 overnight, he's getting an appropriate amount of sleep for his age. You might just need to reset your expectations and accept that a 9.30pm bedtime is what works for him.

I’m just desperately tired and I need to get stuff done and I can’t because DS is just constantly awake (it feels.)

ignore me, I’m just really miserable at the moment and I shouldn’t be. I have a lovely boy who is healthy but I’m not parenting him very well.