Was your mother a birth partner?

[debbietook]

Hi

My daughter has asked to be a birth partner. Of course I've said yes, but I'm also worried...it's 33 years since I had my last baby. I want to live up to this, and would appreciate some help. If your mother was your birth partner, which things did she do that really helped in your labour?

I'll probably get stick for this, but I find it strange to have parent as a birthing partner. I'm really close to my mum, she is supportive and I go to her for advice but it never occurred to me to have her as birthing partner. It was just me and DH.

@Kite22

No. I felt it was a very personal thing between me and dh.

Yes, this is how I felt. It wouldn't have been fair on DH to have my mum there

What wonderful stories. (For the most part) .. thank you for sharing.

@fruitorveg

I'll probably get stick for this, but I find it strange to have parent as a birthing partner. I'm really close to my mum, she is supportive and I go to her for advice but it never occurred to me to have her as birthing partner. It was just me and DH.

Plenty of people cant have their spouses there or don't have a partner and are going it alone

I love my mum dearly, but I wish she hadn't been there when I was in labour with DD. She complained a lot about being bored, ate all my snacks, lectured me to "get a move" or DD's date of birth would have a 3 in it instead of a 2 and she "doesn't like that number", then threw a proper temper tantrum when I had to go for an EMCS and could only be accompanied by one person and chose DH.

Oh, and when I finally got home she had her (fairly large and heavy) dogs in my house, and didn't stop them jumping at me, despite the fact I had just had major surgery.

So...don't do any of those things! 😆