My husband has been desperate for kids for years. I kept putting him off cause I wasn't ready yet but i finally decided it was time and we cracked on and now have a beautiful baby boy that's 12 weeks old.
My husband has been really struggling with having a newborn. He hasn't bonded with the baby much at all and actually told me things were so bad for him that he regretted having him when he was only about 2 weeks old. I chalked it up to newborns being a shock to the system and he'll get over it in time.
He's making much more of an effort now to engage with the baby more and is taking in more responsibility with him so I thought things were getting better. Then he tells me last week that he'd actually changed his mind about having a baby when he turned 30 (which was almost 2 years ago) cause he thinks he's too old to have kids now. He did not tell me this and was more than happy to be trying for a baby... he also makes comments about how spending time with the baby is a 'chore' and can't seem to get his head around the fact that anyone would actually enjoy spending time with him. I asked him if he loved his son and he said 'well, I wouldn't want any harm to come to him'.
I mean, what the actual heck?! What am I supposed to do with that?! I feel so betrayed that he's lied to me about wanting kids and now I've brought this beautiful, amazing little human into the world with a dad that doesn't love him and didn't want him. How can I look my son in the eye knowing that his dad feels that way about him? He was so desperate for kids and now that we have one he's hating every second of it. I really don't know what to do, I feel so broken hearted.
Could this be some form of post natal depression? He doesn't seem to think so but I really don't think this is normal and that he needs to try and get some help.
Has anything like this ever happened to anyone else?