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What do you want for mothers day?

108 replies

Lsquiggles · 18/03/2022 19:32

Our DD is 2 so it will be from my dp really Grin

If you celebrate mother's day, what would you like? Smile

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TrufflyPig · 18/03/2022 22:55

A nice long uninterrupted bath.

aquietlifeplease · 19/03/2022 06:51

A day when my husband actually speaks to me and doesn't spend the day looking at me like I'm the worst thing in the world, given that that's unlikely a card would be nice

DockOTheBay · 19/03/2022 06:57

Mothers Day is my birthday this year and also my DDs 2nd birthday so I think it will be a bit overshadowed! I would like a lie in, otherwise not fussed.

In an ideal world I would like a full nights sleep but thats unlikely

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Qwill · 19/03/2022 06:59

Coffee and cuddles in bed!

GeneLovesJezebel · 19/03/2022 06:59

For my children to visit me, to have my tea cooked for me, and someone to clear up afterwards.

Pyewhacket · 19/03/2022 07:01

@20viona

A fucking rest
I’d settle for a fuck Grin
Dinotruxagain · 19/03/2022 07:04

Seems like a theme is running on the thread. Grin

I'd also like a lie in.. preferably longer than 6am.
I'll likely get a card DS 5 has made in school and a bunch of flowers.
Quite happy with that if I get my bloody lie in!!

pompei8309 · 19/03/2022 07:07

I’m not sure why 90% of the women are asking for “ sleep”. Has having a kids and a job became so unmanageable??? what are your other halfs doing if you’re all so knackered ?? are your kids all unruly savages toddlers ?? or why everyone is so sleep deprived and overworked???
I’m confused, as a mother and wife myself I find this a bit shocking, are you all so busy and tired or just like to exaggerate things??

Lostmyway86 · 19/03/2022 07:07

Breakfast in bed. A guilt free lie in where he gets our 1 and 2 year old DC up and ready without me having to listen to all the drama that entails. Maybe an acknowledgement of something from my DSC (not from them theirselevs, they have a mum. But from DH a little card with some appreciation for all I've done would be nice).

MonkeyPuddle · 19/03/2022 07:17

Pub lunch, card, trip to the park and then for DP for give me the shag of the year for being bloody wonderful.

Autumn42 · 19/03/2022 07:21

@pompei8309

I’m not sure why 90% of the women are asking for “ sleep”. Has having a kids and a job became so unmanageable??? what are your other halfs doing if you’re all so knackered ?? are your kids all unruly savages toddlers ?? or why everyone is so sleep deprived and overworked??? I’m confused, as a mother and wife myself I find this a bit shocking, are you all so busy and tired or just like to exaggerate things??
You can be in any job and feel like you’ve got the best job in the world but that doesn’t mean you wouldn’t love the occasional day off once in a while, to not have to think about what to cook for lunch or dinner, keep up with the housework or ensure the children have something to keep them happy and stimulated, it’s really not to much to ask. If you get this anyway through grandparents, childcare or are just lucky enough to have incredibly easy children then of course you wouldn’t feel the need for this so much
Ragwort · 19/03/2022 07:31

Autumn - or what about just having a decent DH/DP who pulls his weight and enjoys parenting his own child and sharing the normal load of household tasks? Too many women on Mumsnet seem to have absolutely useless men in their lives. It shouldn't be so rare for a mum to have a lie in or a day without worrying about the chores Sad.

Obviously that doesn't apply to single mothers.

angelsandinsects · 19/03/2022 07:43

When I say "sleep" what I actually mean is a Friday night as a 20 something in my flat where I lived by myself and, once a month or so, would come home via the M&S at Waterloo where I would have bought various treats, get home, put my PJs on, put the food on the coffee table, make a pot of tea and (forward planning for slightly later) put a bottle of wine in the ice bucket and pick up my book and then go and sit on the sofa and just not move (well, other than to eat and drink and flick between channels) and then, at a time completely of my own choosing and knowing I had no plans until after lunch the next day, go to bed where I could sleep a responsibility free sleep, get up, shower in a shower set up just for me & only with my pots and potions, make a coffee and go and sit in the garden or the sitting room. Yes, the sitting room would still be slightly messy from the night before but it is my mess. Just made by me. No one else. And then I might put on a load of washing. Or I might not as, as one person and in a job where I wore dry clean suits most of the time, I didn't create much washing. Most importantly, at no point during any of that would anyone ask me for anything, moan about me or expect me to listen to random tales. Unless I chose to call someone or answer a call from someone else, I wouldn't even have to speak to someone.
I could do all of the above knowing that, whilst I was being totally indulgent, it didn't matter to anyone else. There was no guilt factor that I should instead be doing something with or for the DC or that X needed sorting out etc. I just got to do what I wanted to do and, if I didn't do it, the only person I was letting down was myself.
I should also say there were other Friday nights where I'd come home and sit there weeping as I worried whether I'd ever meet anyone and have a long term relationship and children.

As I can't be transported back in time for a 24 hour period, a tray for the bath would be appreciated along with flowers.

pompei8309 · 19/03/2022 07:43

Ragwort- that’s exactly what I mean, it’s scary at how many women with a DH/DP don’t seem to be able to take a day off everything or have a lie in ?? why?
I worked nights for many years , I have children myself, I don’t ever remember feel this overwhelmed by it all .

crossstitchingnana · 19/03/2022 07:52

To be thought about, somehow. A card. Just for someone to do something thoughtful, like breakfast in bed or cooking dinner. I can dream.

Autumn42 · 19/03/2022 07:55

@Ragwort

Autumn - or what about just having a decent DH/DP who pulls his weight and enjoys parenting his own child and sharing the normal load of household tasks? Too many women on Mumsnet seem to have absolutely useless men in their lives. It shouldn't be so rare for a mum to have a lie in or a day without worrying about the chores Sad.

Obviously that doesn't apply to single mothers.

It’s hard to judge to be fair, perhaps the DH just doesn’t generally do those things, it doesn’t mean he’s a bad person, perhaps he works long hours, does all the gardening/diy and that traditional set up suits them. For as many people slating him they’ll be ones slaying her for being a SAHM/part time working mum. Why can’t people just accept how couples like to run their marriage. However happy mothers are with the pros and cons of their situation it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with dreaming of a day off. You could be the most dedicated doctor or vicar in the world, choosing to work full time + and no one would judge your commitment for saying you’d love an occasional day off
Moody123 · 19/03/2022 08:01

My DS is 5 and I am heavily pregnant
A sleep in (although I get one every weekend anyway) will be just what I want

Autumn42 · 19/03/2022 08:01

@angelsandinsects

When I say "sleep" what I actually mean is a Friday night as a 20 something in my flat where I lived by myself and, once a month or so, would come home via the M&S at Waterloo where I would have bought various treats, get home, put my PJs on, put the food on the coffee table, make a pot of tea and (forward planning for slightly later) put a bottle of wine in the ice bucket and pick up my book and then go and sit on the sofa and just not move (well, other than to eat and drink and flick between channels) and then, at a time completely of my own choosing and knowing I had no plans until after lunch the next day, go to bed where I could sleep a responsibility free sleep, get up, shower in a shower set up just for me & only with my pots and potions, make a coffee and go and sit in the garden or the sitting room. Yes, the sitting room would still be slightly messy from the night before but it is my mess. Just made by me. No one else. And then I might put on a load of washing. Or I might not as, as one person and in a job where I wore dry clean suits most of the time, I didn't create much washing. Most importantly, at no point during any of that would anyone ask me for anything, moan about me or expect me to listen to random tales. Unless I chose to call someone or answer a call from someone else, I wouldn't even have to speak to someone. I could do all of the above knowing that, whilst I was being totally indulgent, it didn't matter to anyone else. There was no guilt factor that I should instead be doing something with or for the DC or that X needed sorting out etc. I just got to do what I wanted to do and, if I didn't do it, the only person I was letting down was myself. I should also say there were other Friday nights where I'd come home and sit there weeping as I worried whether I'd ever meet anyone and have a long term relationship and children.

As I can't be transported back in time for a 24 hour period, a tray for the bath would be appreciated along with flowers.

Absolutely, I’m not sure many Dh realise how much we’d appreciate such a day as this as nobody tends to notice those jobs until they’re not done and even then they don’t realise the constant nature of those jobs. E.g. if your kitchen is messy it will assumed by the rest of the family you haven’t cleaned it for a week when it’s actually only been a day!
AuntieMarys · 19/03/2022 08:03

Absolutely nothing. My dcs are adults and I've never been a fan of it. I expect them to be nice to me every day!

Autumn42 · 19/03/2022 08:03

@DockOTheBay

Mothers Day is my birthday this year and also my DDs 2nd birthday so I think it will be a bit overshadowed! I would like a lie in, otherwise not fussed.

In an ideal world I would like a full nights sleep but thats unlikely

Oh dear bad timing, happy birthday anyway!
FrenchyQ · 19/03/2022 08:06

A card from both of mine (15 & 21) without anyone reminding them to do it.

pompei8309 · 19/03/2022 08:08

Autumn42- if people run their marriage in a way where they “dream “about a day off , then they don’t run it properly.
If you would like an occasional day off , then take it , it’s that simple. I’m not sure why people tend to complicate things in such way that it starts affecting their mental health etc

CoraggioCara · 19/03/2022 08:09

@aquietlifeplease I'm so sorry to read your post. Your husband sounds horrible. You deserve kindness. We all do.

MuchTooTired · 19/03/2022 08:09

I’d like a day where I don’t have to think or make decisions. A lie in would be grand too, but I’m currently struggling to sleep past 5.30 so I’m not holding out hope I’ll magically sleep in!

CoraggioCara · 19/03/2022 08:12

@Nelliephant1

It's a privilege to be a mum, no thanks needed - ever!

Hehe. I only agree with the first part of your sentence.

I want to show my own mum some appreciation. And I'd be disappointed if my children didn't feel inclined to thank the people who do a lot for them.

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