Harder going from 0-1 or 1-2?

[seasunshine22]

Just as the title says really, did you find it harder going from 0-1 children or 1-2 children?
If you found if harder going from 1-2 what age gap did you have?

Going from 1 - 2 was harder as you have to deal with the jealousy between them too.

0-1 without a doubt!

I have 2 and they are 2 years apart.

0-1 was like a bomb had been dropped on my life and I had to pick up the pieces. 1-2 has been a breeze so far! 3.5yrs between my two.

Definitely 0-1. You haven't a clue with your first, it's always going to be a bit of a shock.

By the time I was on 3-4, now that was a cakewalk! 😂

0-1 and 3 years apart.

0-1, even though my first two are only 16 months apart. Having DC1 was a major shock to the system, DC2 just slotted in despite the small age gap.

0-1 without doubt. Nothing prepares you for the major change in your life and suddenly being responsible for another human. That's not to say that 1-2 isn't hard but you've done it before and although you might struggle to recall the phases and stages there is some memory muscle there. Plus with your second child you quickly work out what isn't so important second time around and you make it work/drop standards.

0 to 1.Two years apart.
Not that 1 to 2 was easy but nothing compared with the sheer overwhelming shock and life change of the 1st.

Harder 0-1 but the age gap from 1-2 was 3 years, those with a smaller age gap likely have a very different experience

1-2 definitely. 2 year gap

0-1 definitely more difficult - like suddenly waking up on Mars.

2 is more difficult than 1, but your lifestyle has already changed. Gap almost 3 years.

0-1 your life turns upside down
1-2 you just carry on muddling through.

2 years (to the day!) difference.

Hardest bit was the first trimester of pregnancy with dc1. Things got much better once dc1 was here.

I have 3dc and I think each baby was easier than the last, but the ensemble gets harder as they get more numerous

Going 1-2 much harder!
With one- I did whatever they needed. Two- they both had such different needs. Lots of juggling. 2 year gap.

17 months between my two. I'd barely recovered from number 1 then number 2 arrived. The last 4 years has pretty much been a blur. What was the question again?! 😂

1-2 but I have a 5 year age gap.

With my first everything could be focused on her needs, much harder to please anyone with 2 and a bigger gsp

0-1 for me, and I have a 7 year gap between 1-2. Dc2 was a bit of a shock to the system (very much wanted, thought she would never happen) but I was more relaxed. With dc1 - i felt like my life literally changed overnight and I felt completely unprepared and worried about everything.

One you just kind of have them there, 2 you can have one needing to eg go to the bathroom while the other needs a nappy change. Also trying to push a buggy while a toddler tries to run on!( age gap 2 years). Saying that 0 to 1 is a huge shock in a different way, there's so much you don't know, you suddenly have someone you're responsible for and you have no sleep and no time on your own. Actually hmmm, not sure .... I will tell you 2 to 3 blew my mind as I only had 2 hands!!!!

0-1 definitely because it's all so new. Then #2 came along quite quickly after and he was a doddle because I'd found my feet.

By the time #3 comes along you feel like a pro 😂

0-1

Nothing can quite prepare you for how all-encompassing it is being responsible for another human around the clock.

Although I think 2-3 is the next hardest transition, when you're outnumbered for the first time.

1-2 was a piece of cake in comparison to both of those

1-2

But did have DS in lockdown so had nothing else to do but cuddles and wave sensory bits in his face 😂 Also only a 15 month age gap and 2 under 2 is tough!

0-1 by a mile.

1-2 is relentless but the newborn is easy.

0-1 was hardest, as most have said.
I doubted and procrastinated over everything with 1st, didn’t have enough time to do that with 2nd

0-1 for me too. Headfuck of new parenting plus Velcro baby was a lot. 1-2 with a 2 year gap was fine, lulling me into a sense of false security. 2-3 has been more challenging but still easier than 0-1 (sorry DC1!)

The newborn stage (first 6 months) was much harder first time round, as it was such an adjustment.
Once DC2 reached 6m and was mobile and vocal, life with 2 became much harder I sort one child out and there is another one needing attention! 3 years gap here.