Husband span newborn around?

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My husband just scan our newborn around like you see people do on tv with toddlers. I'm terrified of shaken baby syndrome. Should I be worried? Am I freaking out over nothing?!

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Do you mean he span round holding the baby in his arms, or he span round with the baby held in the air or he like held the baby by the wrists and span it around?

Was he supporting the head? Was it really fast?

Why would he do this?! He's a fucking idiot. Poor little baby must have been terrified. No you're not freaking out over nothing. I don't know what advice to give. I'm genuinely shocked. My idiotic ex H who always tried to push our kids to do stuff they weren't really ready for for his convenience still managed to treat our new borns like they were made of glass.

He had her under the arms, around her chest. He said it wasn't fast but it looked too fast to me :(

How old is she exactly?

What? Span as in twirled in his arms or like, weeeeeee without supporting the head?

What an idiot. Her head is supposed to be supported all the time not whacked back bring spun around. I'd have been livid!
I'd keep a very close eye on her.

I'd take her to be seen in that case.

Did her head even move? Was he holding her carefully?

No,you should not do this with a newborn baby. very foolish indeed. Can't believe a normal person would do such a thing. A baby is not a toy or a play thing.

I'd get her checked out. Only you know exactly how fast/what position he was in.

I kept a close eye on her for the next 6 hours and we had a long discussion about what you can and can't do with the baby. I don't think he was aware of how fragile she is.

She is 12 days today

I think you need to get the health visitor to talk to him. It's very worrying that he doesn't know a newborn must have their head supported

What an idiot. I wouldn't be leaving baby alone with him for a long while. Get her checked over to be on the safe side.

Is he always this aggressive?

Most people's reaction to holding a newborn baby is to gently cradle them and possibly a small rocking motion.

Not to fucking wizz it around in the air!

Honestly he sounds a liability.

Fine at 12 months, could cause serious damage at 12 days. He does sound as if he's lacking some instinctive empathy that most people have towards tiny newborn babies.

Why did he do that? Was he trying to play or getting frustrated with her?
Either way it’s clearly not appropriate.
How I proceeded would depend on what I thought the intent was. If he’s just a massive idiot who doesn’t understand how fragile babies are, I’d watch him like a hawk and expect him to seek out education possibly via the hv.

If it was in anyway aggressive etc then he needs to be away from the baby totally.
If he’s not recognising how dangerous his actions were then he can’t be left to care for baby.

I hope baby will be fine in this instance, but may want to get checked out. Sounds to me, unless there's more to this, that DH didn't realised you can't treat a newborn like a toddler - OP is the only one who can judge really if this is likely to be understood and acted on or if DH is given not to listen to these things, before people start throwing judgements about him never being left alone with baby!

12 days? Is he fucking stupid? I'm really shocked he thought that was okay.

Was babies head supported?

Assuming he wasn't supporting her head and neck, then that was a very stupid thing to do. Newborns are so tiny and delicate, I can't imagine why he thought that big physical actions like that were appropriate. What's he been like otherwise with her so far?

Do you mean like the kind of movements people do at baby yoga? Although really she's still too young but if it's that kind of thing she'll be fine.

He is mad. Your child is in danger from this idiot.