Husband span newborn around?

[showersandflowers]

My husband just scan our newborn around like you see people do on tv with toddlers. I'm terrified of shaken baby syndrome. Should I be worried? Am I freaking out over nothing?!

@girlmom21

Do you mean like the kind of movements people do at baby yoga? Although really she's still too young but if it's that kind of thing she'll be fine.

I don't think newborn babies are spun around at baby yoga classes??

I know you kept an eye on her, but honestly, I would still need to get her checked out at hospital.
Sounds absolutely terrifying.

Op please get the baby checked over. To spin the baby like that is downright irresponsible what the hell was he thinking. Do not leave the baby with him god knows what he will do unsupervised

I think you need to get her seen. You will never know whether problems in the future might be related to this incident, and you must never leave your child in the charge of this stupid man. I am speechless that an adult could be so ignorant.

@UltraVividLament they were at mine - not really fast, by any means, but i think any movement with a baby looks scary when someone else is doing it

You need to get your baby checked out as soon as possible.

Shaken baby syndrome doesn’t happen by accident. It’s a vigorous shake where their necks/heads are shaken and floppy as they have no neck/head control.

So unless their head was shaking back and forwards/side to side one spin around whilst supporting them isn’t going to lead to shaken baby.

@showersandflowers Omg. Please please PLEASE get her checked out by a health care professional. This isn't a risk you can safely take. You NEED to make sure no internal damage was done. There's no possible way of being able to tell from the outside, especially not with mild brain damage

I would 100% get her checked out as a matter of urgency.

I have experience of a baby being injured in a very similar way. This is very serious. Go get help.

OMG is a complete and utter idiot? This is a tiny newborn baby.
I'd want to know exactly why he thought that would be a good idea and I'd definitely report this to your GP and health visitor.
It would be awful if he injured your baby and you were blamed and you need a record of this kind of behaviour.

Was he holding her against him? Sort of in a cuddle?

Or away from him?

I would call my GP and get her checked out, for my own peace of mind.

Dear God, people overreact on here. She'll be fine. Tell him not to do it again.

It is very unlikely she will have SBS which requires sustained and rapid direction changes on an unsupported neck BUT

He really shouldn’t be spinning a newborn around. I assume it is new dad naivety and getting a bit over excited and not something more sinister. Talk to him again and make very sure he understands. If you are not satisfied then you have a big decision to make as to whether your baby is safe in his care.

@stingofthebutterfly

Dear God, people overreact on here. She'll be fine. Tell him not to do it again.

Exactly my thoughts tbh

Remind him to be more gentle with her, she'll be fine.

is he always this aggressive?

I don’t know what you’ve been through to think a father being playful with their baby is aggressive…

It sounds from the description that he held the baby under the armpits? Their heads will be supported by the shoulders and probably his fingers? Doesn’t sound at all dramatic or dangerous.

@stingofthebutterfly

Dear God, people overreact on here. She'll be fine. Tell him not to do it again.

Quite!

@stingofthebutterfly

Dear God, people overreact on here. She'll be fine. Tell him not to do it again.

How do you know she will be fine? Maybe she will....maybe she won’t.... however a medical professional can make that call.... not some random know it all on MN🙄

It’s odd people think others are overreacting given the minimal info the op gave was that he “swung” a 12 day old baby and she’s worried about shaken baby syndrome.That’s all the info we have.

It may not be a worst case scenario, but given the op themselves seems to be concerned and also hasn’t clarified the wider context of the behaviour….I’d not be so certain it was a harmless naive father. It could be but I don’t think those more concerned are overreacting.

As for shaken baby syndrome, my understanding was that it could be inflicted relatively easily in a short span and does not only just occur after sustained shaking. I’m no expert though.

@Whatinthelord

It’s odd people think others are overreacting given the minimal info the op gave was that he “swung” a 12 day old baby and she’s worried about shaken baby syndrome.That’s all the info we have.

It may not be a worst case scenario, but given the op themselves seems to be concerned and also hasn’t clarified the wider context of the behaviour….I’d not be so certain it was a harmless naive father. It could be but I don’t think those more concerned are overreacting.

As for shaken baby syndrome, my understanding was that it could be inflicted relatively easily in a short span and does not only just occur after sustained shaking. I’m no expert though.

She said "like you see people do on the tv with toddlers". I've never seen anyone shake a toddler on tv.

I never said he shook the baby. I’m just saying we have minimal information and although in some respects it does sound harmless (I’m sure this is the most likely scenario too) there’s certainly not enough information to be confident it was just a harmless but nieve action.

Op was obviously concerned enough to post about it and worry about shaken baby syndrome.

Jesus Christ. 12 days old? Unsupported neck or not? Be honest with yourself. Then go to the hospital if her neck was unsupported

Could not raise a child with somebody this thick.

Hi all. She's been checked and thankfully there was no harm done. After a lot of angry tears at my husband for putting me through the stress, he admitted that he's just so used to playing rough with our dog and just wanted to play with her. Don't worry, I've explained that he can't be that rough with her ever but especially not now. I've also explained that playing with her now means pulling funny faces at her and showing her contrast cards... not spinning her around! He is a great dad and dotes on her but trying to get him to do research on newborns has been an absolute nightmare.

If this is real he's an idiot. You don't need to do research to know that you don't do this to newborns. I wouldn't be surprised if a referral is made to social services by the midwife.

Oh godsake everyone, let him alone. He made a daft mistake, even smart people can do that sometimes and actually if you haven't 'done the research', people don't necessarily know a newborn's head needs to be held up - witness how often parents, usually mums, have to adjust the handling of a newborn by a childless friend or relative!