How do I find myself again while being a mum?!

[shygirliee56]

Hi ladies new mum here to a 12 month old I'm also young 21 is there any tips to find yourself again I love being a mum but I miss who I use to be the fun , outgoing person ... I've also gained some weight so that puts some extra pressure on me also I've told my boyfriend that I don't feel like myself anymore but he just doesn't get it

I'm not depressed but just need to find who I was before to go out more with friends I just stay at home and eat all the chocolates and sweets 🤣

Hey! Do you work?
I'm going back soon (my daughter is 8 months) and I'm really looking forward to it. I don't work from home though - looking forward to getting out of the house and carrying on with my job which I love.

Do you have any other friends who have kids? I get that baby groups or church type playgroups are a bit harder to socialise in now but could be a good start?
I’ve given myself until the 5th jan to ‘finish’ Christmas eating and drinking and then firmly back to a healthy kick up the arse with gym and good eating in mind.
I’d check the ‘I’m not not depressed’ comment you said…it’s bloody hard work without all of the extra pressure, so be gentle with yourself, recognise and accept that you’re not feeling yourself and perhaps reach out to your friends and family for support.