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my auntie keep calling my dd the wrong name on purpose, what would you do?

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kittenbaby · 21/12/2007 09:14

yes and we will be seeing this aunt at christmas, dd is only 6 months so she won't know.

dd's name is saskia, not really that difficult to pronouce is it ?
the annoying thing about this aunt is that shes doing it on purpose

how would you handle it ?
id really apprieate any tips?

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kittenbaby · 21/12/2007 09:17

this aunt has also critasied me a lot for bf, i think she thinks me and dh think we are posh iyswim?
as she says things like ohh you couldnt just pick a normal name could you
and well bf is very midle class im not suprised your doing it blah blah

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EffiePerine · 21/12/2007 09:17

I'd correct her quietly but then ignore. It's probably not worth getting het up over

TinselGrrrlWith2Boys · 21/12/2007 09:18

i'd not respond to any conversation where she says the name (incorrectly), or call her the wrong name repeatedly aswell. But i am quite childish

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EffiePerine · 21/12/2007 09:19

And point out that bf best for the baby and you and look superior

Tommy · 21/12/2007 09:21

try and nip it in the bud - my FIL calls DS2 by the wrong name all the time and he's 4.

nailpolish · 21/12/2007 09:22

ask her what her problem is

say "excuse me, but do you have a problem? if so can we get it out please"

just cos she is old doesnt mean you cant confront her or she has to be pussyfooted around

maybe she is jealous. jealousy is the root of a lot of nastiness IMO

chin up

crokky · 21/12/2007 09:23

I would just let her carry on. I'm sure when your DD is old enough, she'll say to the aunt "that's not my name".

WewishyouaBUMPERLICIOUS · 21/12/2007 09:27

my aunty has started called dd "bog brush" because of her hair (she us also 6 mo)

Can you not just keep repeating dd's name back to her as if she is stupid? she'll soon get fed up!

foxinsocks · 21/12/2007 09:29

what does your aunt call her instead of saskia?

StGeorgesIrishSanta · 21/12/2007 09:29

What does she call her?

YuleLoveHekateAtSolstice · 21/12/2007 09:29

What name is she calling her?

I think you should just correct her, loudly and slowly, every single time she does it.

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kittenbaby · 21/12/2007 09:34

sasha mainly

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foxinsocks · 21/12/2007 09:37

what's your aunt's name? I think I'd be really contrary and start accidentally calling her the wrong name.

Like if her name's Kate, say 'ooh Kitty, would you like a cup of tea?' and then go 'oops, silly old me, I meant Kate but I've obviously caught your wrong name virus!'.

Actually, I wouldn't because your dd is only 6 months and as someone else said, once she's old enough, she'll correct her herself (or not come to her when she calls her the wrong name) and that will upset/annoy your aunt enough I would have thought!

SelfishMrsClaus · 21/12/2007 09:38

Is the aunt really old & hard of hearing?

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kittenbaby · 21/12/2007 09:39

no shes not old at all
and if she honestly didn't get the name then i really wouldnt mind.
but she is doing it on purpose

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Anna8888 · 21/12/2007 09:51

I think you need to take your aunt to one side and explain to her that she is being childish and rude and that you wish her to call your DD Saskia as that is the name that her parents have chosen for her and parents, and parents only, choose a child's name.

As for the aunt that is calling a child "bog brush", I would just tell her to either stop immediately or not come round. That is outrageous.

slim22 · 21/12/2007 09:55

I'd just ignore her. Doesn't look like you are very close anyway.
Say hello, how are you, remember SAS-KI-A? with a very big fake smile and move on to the next guest.

sandyballs · 21/12/2007 09:58

Very annoying, have a quiet word with her and explain how it upsets you.

My mother did this when my nephew was born. She wanted him to be called Daniel instead of Sam so she called him Daniel for about a year

imdreamingofawhiteKITTYmas · 21/12/2007 10:01

My Dad still doens't pronounce DD2's name right, drives me mad it's not a difficult name to say unusual yes but it's pronounce it as you say it.

It's Talia Tah-lee-a

he calls her Tal-Ya

I am fed up correcting him.

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kittenbaby · 21/12/2007 10:34

on one hand id like to just smile sweetly and say her name saskia and then ignore said aunt and talk to someone else [ there by not giving her the satisfaction,but i bet she won't just leave it at that, as she will try to make a song and dance about it saying saskia ? i can't say that and what did you have pick that name for ?[just like she did when dd was born]

its hard to explain but its kind of like she's trying to put us down.
im not just being over sensitive. i never ever even talk about bf as i know shes anti. but i know when i do feed dd shes gonna have bad comments for me
but i dont really care about that now

but it is annoying that she keeps calling dd the wrong name on purpose. i do not want her to do this to dd when she is older

what do you think to me having a word with my mum [her sister]
or will that just give said aunt a bigger platform to perform on iyswim ?

thanks so much for all your views, im taking them all in

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kittenbaby · 21/12/2007 11:13

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bigmyrrhstrikesagain · 21/12/2007 11:20

My dh's (94yo) Nan calls my dd Matalan - you can probably guess her real name (unfortunately has been in news constantly this year).

As she is 94 and deaf and virtually blind I don't mind, I do get fed up with all the inncorrect spellings (from relatives and friends)of her name but try to remember that you cannot control what others do - and remain calm - keep things in perspective. Afterall i know my dd is not named after a discount shop!

pagwatch · 21/12/2007 11:21

Kittenbaby
I had this with my DH's gran.
We kept repeating it to her in that slightly louder, clearly annunciated voice that is generally use for people who are deaf or becoming a little addled.
When she did it we repeated it to her clearly and just kept saying "really, never mind. Things get confusing don't they - we're none of us getting any younger" and exchanging knowing looks. Dh even asked her if she wanted to sit nearer the fire because it wouldn't do for her to catch a chill at her time of life [ grin].
She stopped it straight away !It was hilarious.

thebecster · 21/12/2007 11:24

My grandad persisted in calling me 'Betty' until he died. I am not, and have never been, called Betty. He knew this. My Mum didn't correct him as she was too frightened of him (he was a nasty piece of work, her dad). It didn't traumatise me, it just added to the 'mad things my grandparents did' anecdotes I can tell... (it's probably the mildest anecdote of the lot actually!)

kittylouise · 21/12/2007 11:30

It is so annoying when your child's name is pronounced wrongly.

DD is called Sophia - she is more often than not called Sophie. It makes my blood boil. It's not as if Sophia is an unusual or hard to pronounce name. Almost as bad is when people pronounce Sophia as to rhyme with 'higher', the loons.

DD corrects people when they get it wrong. She doesn't get half as bothered as I do about it, thoigh

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