my auntie keep calling my dd the wrong name on purpose, what would you do?

[kittenbaby]

yes and we will be seeing this aunt at christmas, dd is only 6 months so she won't know.

dd's name is saskia, not really that difficult to pronouce is it ?
the annoying thing about this aunt is that shes doing it on purpose

how would you handle it ?
id really apprieate any tips?

you have to say something outright
stand up for your dd!!!

just cos hse is old doesnt give her the right to be rude

i work with old people and they can vicious old bats at times

Make a little placard with "SASKIA" printed on it. Keep it close at hand. Everytime she says Sasha show the card. If you are worried this is not clear enough then write on the other side "NOT SASHA" and show the second side too for the first few occaisions.

Don't worry too much if she finds this offensive, just make out it is hugely humorous and keep it up as long as she does. After all she was happy to offend you by getting it wrong. Humour is a powerful weapon!

Good luck, and remember you can use the placard idea to solve a lot of other problems that might occur in the future

I think Saskia is a lovely name.

thankyou darth
you are so right humour is a powerful tool

i should use humor for problems more

yes nail polish i think your right, its funny because ive always taken her shit and put downs over the years with thing like our house, our wedding etc
basically it always about thing we have or do that are nice, that she begrudges us
and thinks because we have a nice house etc we think we are posh
but its never really bothered me before
and when she slags off bf that doesnt really bother me now as its me shes havingb a dig at really
but with dd i feel hugely protective over, well fiercely protective over tbh
and god help anyone that ever hurts her !!
as this little kittenbaby will turn into a lion beast !!! lol

I remember when we named ds my northern ILs commenting that it was a very London name ! not meant nastily, just that it was perhaps a touch middle class for them up on Merseyside (no disrespect to middle class Merseysiders there)

I would just say to her really calmly "Aunt my baby's name is Saskia, please don't call her Sasha as that is not her name. Is that ok?"

and see what she says. If you then get loads of comments about you being up tight or whatever, just smile sweetly and never invite her again. As for the bfg comments, just ignore.

btw kittenbaby, does she not think Sasha is as posh as Saskia (which is v nice name - my friend's dd is called that)

She had no choice but to stop doing it once I refused to acknowledge her presence unless she called me by my given name.

Oddly, she's also very critical of bf, especially extended bf and the lack of solids before 6 months. She often says 'you've got some very funny ideas you young people... in my day... [insert long-winded story about introducing whisky and steak at 7 weeks]'. I'm very practiced in the art of the benign smile. If that fails, I whip out a boob. To feed dd obviously. I don't just get it out and point it at people.

thanks everyone
as you can see ive now changed my name lol
as i feel more like a lionbeast than a kittenbaby

thankyou for all your wonderful views and ideas

feeling so much better now, im ready for christmas

soh good point about the feeding, i could nick that idea too

hatrick good idea about a badge, ill try that next time if aunt acts up this time
how did your family and friends react to the name?how old is your dd does she like the name ?

merry i don't think she think sasha is anybetter or worse iyswim shes just trying to be a pita
bt if we had called dd sasha she'd call her saskia,or something else!
lol

soh hands did it used to piss your mum off ?

yes even the dr asked me why i had calld dd it
in a puzzled mannor

and ive had the eastenders comment too
lol

i think most people love it though

dd smiles and laughs when dh calls her pratskia!!
although ive told him off and told him not to

but he is only kidding
dd thinks daddy is hillairous

pmsl my dh is gonna love that
the link didnt work but i looked itup on yahoo imagages looks like bigfoot !

i sometimes call her hugskia
or milkskia

really anythingyouwant/skia lol

how old is your dd hatrick ?

awwww what a lovely family
your dc are so beautiful

yeah sleepskia, i love that one too

My rule is, you did the labour, you get to pick the name! My MIL hated that I called my ds benedict rather than benjamin and would pretend to forget and call him benjamin. I just ignored her,I knew what his name was. I felt like sending her a note when Pope BENEDICT was named pope (we are catholic) and rub it in how famous my ds's name was.

why the heck did your mil think she had the right to chose your ds name?
what is it with these people?

This aunt sounds very irritating - some great suggestions on here about how to deal with her.!

friend of my dh's family used my ds's middle name instead of his totally different first name which is fine BUT I reckon she did it on purpose.....dh's family are from a different country and so is this friend of theirs - the middle name was from her country and the first name isn't - so I think she was doing it on purpose to make a point.