Would you visit a smokers house as a one off?

[LifesTooShortYOLO]

One off visit for a couple of hours at a smokers house for family gathering with a child?
They won't smoke in the house at all when guests are there, and will have had windows open to air out any prior smoke in the house.
WWYD?

No because the smell gives me a migraine. If I didn’t get migraines it would be a yes but I would find it vile that my children would come away smelling of stale smoke.

I would and do, I don't take my child

@trumpisagit

We did as children, but thankfully we know very few smokers now. I would potentially take them, but my kids hate the smell of smoke, and would struggle not to say something like "it stinks" unless I briefed them first.

How old are your children? They sound very rude.

Yes

Yes, don’t see a problem.

@trumpisagit

We did as children, but thankfully we know very few smokers now. I would potentially take them, but my kids hate the smell of smoke, and would struggle not to say something like "it stinks" unless I briefed them first.

Then your children need to be thaught some manners !

I had to stay at my uncles house when I fled a bad relationship. With kids. He smoked. We survived.

If I’d have thought like this I’d have never visited my grandparents , times have changed though it seems crazy to me now smoking indoors I literally don’t know anyone who does , but yes I’d go

I would but I really don’t like the smell so would try and meet elsewhere if I could.

I used to hate waking up the morning after going to the pub being able to smell smoke in my hair and on my pillow.

With a child under a year no. Older then I would consider it but I would rather not.

No because I find it triggers my asthma.

Yes, but I wouldn't like them smoking around DD indoors. Outdoors wouldn't bother me.

My parents hated smoking, but my grandparents on my dad's side were heavy smokers. I didn't know what their ashtray was as a child and can remember I used to stick my fingers in the ashtray and smell the fag ash! 🙈🤢😂
I never came to any harm. It will be fine.

No, it triggers my asthma & migraines. An asthma attack while you have a migraine is absolutely horrible.

Yes we do but I hate it

Not a fan of it but FIL smokes so we do it.
When our kids were younger he wouldn't go to the door or outside, was the same when dh was young too (they owned house). It was something that stopped us going often and we had a fall out over that and a few other things. Nowadays he goes to the kitchen door or outside if not cold (they rent now) so it's not a problem. The house doesn't smell of it and I didn't notice him smoking last time we went (dh said he had several in the few hours we were there).

Yes, of course. Is there any particular reason why you wouldn't? Do you have morning sickness or asthma or anything? Unless it's physically unpleasant for you there is no reason really not to. If you are worried about passive (or passive twice removed in this case) smoking it's not going to have an effect in just a few hours.

It will stink
And you will stink afterwards
But yes I would for a short visit

Yes, I would. Though I wouldn't enjoy it as a regular thing, even when I used to smoke it was outdoors!

Depends how much I wanted to see the person & whether meeting elsewhere was an
Option.

Yep, I grew up in the '70's with most of the family being smokers. You could barely see across the room when the family got together (frequently) and I was always all over my grandparents who smoked. I hated it then, but it was the way it was.

Now the smell of stale smokes/smokes gives me awful headaches and it just stinks, so I avoid it at almost all costs. However, if I could see my nana (long gone) I'd gladly sit there while she smoked. 💁🏻‍♀️

We did - for lunch plus an hour afterwards. No smoking in the house while we were there. We hit the shower as soon as we got back to the hotel. DC were 14 and 6- not sure I would have taken a baby.
We warned them beforehand not to say anything about the smell and left coats in the car. I took the clothes we were wearing, bagged them up and put them in the car boot ASAP after the showers. No harm done - I’m sure we’ve inhaled worse by walking along pavements in areas with traffic, but the stink of smoke clings to hair and clothes.

No I wouldn’t - the smell is just so horrible that I don’t think I could sit through it to be honest.

@Maray1967

We did - for lunch plus an hour afterwards. No smoking in the house while we were there. We hit the shower as soon as we got back to the hotel. DC were 14 and 6- not sure I would have taken a baby. We warned them beforehand not to say anything about the smell and left coats in the car. I took the clothes we were wearing, bagged them up and put them in the car boot ASAP after the showers. No harm done - I’m sure we’ve inhaled worse by walking along pavements in areas with traffic, but the stink of smoke clings to hair and clothes.

This reminds me of the Catherine Tate character Posh Mum

I would as a one off but I wouldn’t bring a small baby or a child with asthma or other respiratory problems. If this was a relative who we were likely to see on an ongoing baby (so twice a year or something as opposed to a true one off) I’d establish a pattern meeting outside the house - for lunch in a pub or coffee at a garden centre or for a walk round a national trust property of whatever.

Yes, under the circumstances you describe. However, I would wear my oldest machine washable clothes, and get changed when I got home.

The health risks of a one off exposure must be very small but it is psychologically difficult for me to sit in a space that stinks of cigarette smoke knowing that it’s a terrible carcinogen and aggravated asthma and allergies. I find it very difficult to not bring up the health risks when friends or family smoke. I don’t really understand why anyone still does it but I’ve learnt to keep my mouth shut about it unless someone else brings it up. I definitely avoid visiting people who smoke in the house or getting in cars with smokers who smoke in the car. I find the smell very unpleasant.
Of course children who are not used to smokers’ environment are going to say ´it stinks’. It does stink. You must be able to get kids to remember to be polite enough not to say it. You probably won’t manage to get young children to be polite enough not to hold their nose…